Ghosts and Psychic Ability

lately i've had some problems. See i knew i was psychic since i was 7 yrs old. But i had some issues with it because it goes off and on. I'm really proud of having this gift but i have this problem that i will only see bad things coming in my dreams. Also i saw a spirit once. And i believe my house is haunted even though i would like to know why it's haunted i don't know how to. Anyways i need help from you to tell me how i can expand my visions and see positive things too. Thank you for time, and please answer me soon,

CR

Dear CR,

I wouldn't worry about it going on and off like that, that's common. It happens to all of us. A couple things jumped out at me when I read your post. Did you notice how you don't say "I", you say "i"? It's a way of making yourself small. That is out of harmony or coherence with the pride you take in your psychic gift. Is there a part of you that doesn't feel you deserve to have "good" visions too? Do you spend a lot of your time worrying or fearful in general? The important thing regardless is to stay positive. When I first had my experiences, they were mostly negative too. I was terrified of them, and my fear drew even more negative experiences my way. Doreen Virtue tells people to ask their angels for help and I think that's a terrific idea - ask your angels or pray that you be given only those visions that are in your best and highest good, and when you get the odd negative one, don't dwell on it, just journal it and let it go. Over time you will find the visions change.



As for the haunting, they usually happen when something bad happens in a given place. They are very rarely actual spirits. I've made a video reply for you to explain this in greater detail. In the meantime, the best thing to do is to meditate every day, to regularly ground yourself, and to keep a regular journal of these kinds of experiences so that you can look back on them with more clarity in the future.

Brandi

More on Curses

I am a Ugandan born minister but ministering in Bungoma-Kenya. My main call in the the ministry is prophetic and I surely deal with curses. Please I want to get more on this.

F

Hi F,

In my experience with curses, the main mechanism of transfer is fear. Sometimes the person who thinks they are cursed has experienced something negative, fears it will happen again, and starts looking around for a reason why that happened. They may assume they have been cursed when in reality, either their own reactions have brought on their troubles, or sometimes they have simply had some bad luck. Other times, there is someone out to get them, and in many different cultures there are different rituals people can do, but again, the mechanism that is most effective is to simply tell the victim they are cursed (or drop some hints about it that they are sure to catch), and let their own fears take over.



I firmly believe that no one can curse someone who is walking in the Light. If I am firm and confident in my faith, I raise my energy to the point where their negativity simply can't reach me. We need to convince people that the most effective thing they can do to avoid or change a curse is to be happy, joyful and courageous. It's possible that through their faith in you or me that people could have their curses lifted for a time. If we do some kind of ritual, this could boost their confidence. If they have faith in our abilities, then maybe the curse can be lifted. But all we are doing is handing over a temporary fix. The next time bad times come along, they will come running to us for relief.

Personally, I feel it is important that people take responsibility for their own happiness, and I choose to empower them by insisting that they can take care of curses on their own. Everything that you can do to empower people to have self-confidence and courage will not only lift their curses, but will bring more joy into their lives and the lives of their loved ones, and I strongly believe that's what life is all about.

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Brandi Jasmine

What should I do about this spell?

This was posted by a person that has made my life hell for the last 3 months. I didn't read it because I was told not too. What should I do now?

(Binding spell deleted)

Anonymous

As far as the spell is concerned I wouldn't be worried in the least. Assume for a moment it is real and has power. So what? All it is supposed to do is keep the recipient from gossiping, lying and sending negative energy. So it won't have any serious negative effect on you. It does not call for any sort of harm. It is a protection from harm spell. If you are doing any of those things, the worst thing that will happen is you may find yourself frustrated. Metaphysically there is nothing to do, aside from the standard protection exercises everyone should be doing on a daily basis. A little "Love Bombing" couldn't hurt either.

Assuming it is not for real, and you are doing none of the things specified in the spell, then the problem is psychological and not spiritual. This spell would suggest then that this individual is mentally unstable if not outright paranoid. It's possible this person could be dangerous, and you want to keep them away from you and out of your life. I have some experience with bullies as well as psychic matters, and if you know this individual, and possess an address, if they are in your area, then I would get a restraining order preventing them from having any contact with you (including any electronic contact). Do not engage them! That almost never works. It may feel good to tell someone off if they are acting crazy or miserable, but nobody responds well to that. They only see your defending yourself as an attack on them, which they use to justify continued abuse.

If this is a cyberbullying situation, don't respond. Work on ignoring them completely. I would unsubscribe from any unmoderated (or poorly moderated) discussion groups you may share. Do everything within your power to actively avoid them. No matter how tempting they may make it to respond, don't. Use an email filter to automatically delete anything they email you. Un-friend them on your Facebook or MySpace page(s). Block them every way you can to keep them from contacting you. Cyberbullies thrive on attention. They will move off in 99% of cases within a week if they realize they are not getting through. For the remaining 1% further action may be needed. Contact moderators, ISPs, social networking sites and ask them to assist you in blocking this person. If they continue to attempt to get in touch with you, contact your local police or a good lawyer and ask their assistance in obtaining a restraining order to prevent this individual from contacting you via email or through any electronic means.

If none of this works, email me again privately with the details and I will see if there is something else you might be able to do.

Brandi

Get me out of this demonic attack

Dear Brandi,

I experience unexplained headaches, dizzy spells, sleeping disorders and mood swings and sees flashes of light. I am anxious of crowded places and see strange visions (etc)  I would like you to shut it all off and make it go away and turn my volume up.

SM

Dear SM,

What makes you think this is a demonic attack? What you describe here sounds like a lot of other psychics I know when their abilities first came out. I still experience many of these things myself. But unless there is blood dripping down the walls and plates flying out of cupboards or there is some other nasty phenomena happening (and that is incredibly rare), then maybe there are demons involved. If so, even though I am not religious myself, I would not want to try to handle something like that on my own. I'd call the Catholic Church, they have the most experienced exorcists. Otherwise, I kind of doubt what you are experiencing is a demonic attack. I hope that gives you some measure of comfort.

There is no simple way to turn it all off. If you want to get better control you
first have to accept that this is happening, and let go of some of your fear
about it. I recommend that you get a copy of Living With Your Psychic Gifts ...
The detailed advice that I would give you is actually already in the book. Some
of it is online at the web site. In the meantime, the best thing to do is to meditate every day, to regularly ground yourself, and to keep a regular journal of these kinds of experiences so that you can look back on them with more clarity in the future. If you don't know anything about meditation, your local Buddhist temple may teach it or there could be a meditation group in your area. My friend Ross Quinn has a wonderful "Centering" CD available to order online, and I highly recommend it. He also teaches a class I have found tremendously helpful. It's not about psychic ability, it's about being happier, more effective and centered in life, which can have a profoundly positive effect on psychic experiences. Once you accept it, let go of the fear and stop fighting the experiences, they start to smooth out and get a lot more positive. In other words, turn your volume up!

Journal-keeping is vital to your personal and psychic growth. You can go back over time and check the details. You'll find that you remember some things differently a week, month or year down the line. It is really helpful in so many ways. It will prove to you that you are seeing something "real", and where your blind-spots are. It keeps things grounded.

Of course I recommend you read the full text of Living With Your Psychic Gifts:
http://www.psychicprotection.net/ - especially the parts on psychic protection, and I invite you to join us in our discussion group. You will find there are a lot of other people out there with similar experiences. Just knowing I wasn't on my own with this thing made it a lot easier to bear.

Brandi

Entity with a message

Thank you for taking the time to view my email.
I feel crazy and hopeless.

For the past year, there has been an entity around me. He says he has something to tell me. I too fearful and want him to go away. Who is he? What does he have to tell me? If feels like he's wrestling with me at least 3 nights a week. Why is he bothering me? What must I do to rid of my fears? Maybe I'm creating this energy in my mind, but why. Please help me. Thank you and be blessed.

Sincerely, L

Dear L,

He doesn't say what it is he wants to tell you? Honestly, why ask me when you could ask him? I get impressions and feelings and I am right more often than not, but no better source than the horse's mouth. Normally a spirit with good intentions will leave you alone if they know you are fearful, so this spirit does trouble me. But I don't see the harm in letting him speak his message. I would respond very clearly and say "If you agree to leave in the name of light and love, and never return then I will hear your message." Then hear him out. Whatever he has to say can't be any worse than what you are already going through. You'll at least know why he's bothering you then, and the chances are good he will leave you alone after that. If he doesn't, he would have been a bother anyway. We can address that if that happens, but for now, I think the best thing is to listen to the message. If he can't or won't tell you, then get back to me and we'll discuss the next steps.

Brandi

How does sister learn about her gifts?

Hi Brandi, I am emailing you hopefully to get some answers about mine and my sisters psychic abilities. My sister is the more gifted one and lately has had several frightening encounters with the most recent one she had the aid of my deceased father helping her fight off a spirit attacking her in her home. She has known about the death of every family member before anyone was notified since she was about 3 years old. Lately the spirits have been more persistent and she has no clue how to communicate back with ones other than my father. If you could help or direct us to someone who can please let me know.

Thanks ... JA

Dear JA

I think I can help, but the first thing I say may sound a little odd at first. If you want these experiences to be less frightening, you and your sister first have to stop being afraid.

I know that sounds like I've got the cart before the horse, but hear me out.

When I first started having my psychic experiences, I was afraid of everything that happened to me. I was raised in a family with no tolerance for anything outside of their rigid belief systems. They weren't a lot of help. Their fearful reactions just drove me deeper into fear-based thinking. And the experiences grew ever more frightening. Like a snowball that goes downhill in a cartoon, growing larger and swallowing everything in its path, my fear grew and grew until I could barely stand to go to sleep at night.

Then one day I had a breakthrough, and I began to accept that what was happening to me wasn't evil. Looked at dispassionately it really wasn't all that scary. It was my own reactions that brought about the fear. There was really nothing inherently scary in anything that I was sensing or seeing. Even when I sensed a death, nothing bad happened to me - and I was often comforted by the presence of spirits during the times of transition. The more I have grown to accept this gift, the less frightening experiences I have attracted.

As for techniques to communicate, it really is just as easy as thinking or visualizing. I hold a picture in my head, and think the words I'd like to say to the spirit. Sometimes I speak them aloud.

I welcome you and your sister to join our discussion group - there are a lot of wonderful people there with similar experiences who are eager to teach, learn and share.

How do I get a curse removed?

Over the years I have had some bad things happen to me and this year from March on has been terrible. I have had my Tarot read a few times and each time it has said basically the same thing. That there are people working against me. I believe I have been cursed. I don't know if you believe in this but if you do can you help me to lift or break this? If you do not can you direct me to the proper place or people? Sometimes I can feel like there is some kind of force stopping or barring me from getting thing that are to be mine, I do not necessarily mean material things but they are included also. I am so frustrated and discouraged by this. Thank you for listening and ANY help or insight you can give.

LR

I do believe curses are possible. As much as I love Tarot, one of the dangers is that at times it seems to reflect back more clearly what we believe to be true, rather than what is actually true. If you sincerely believe you are cursed, the cards may reflect that, whether it's true or not. The same is true of many psychics. If you set up a strong enough thought, the majority of psychics will not be able to distinguish that thought from reality.

Other than a string of bad luck and the readings, is there an indication you have been cursed? Did someone tell you they were cursing you? Does your family have a history of metaphysical trouble of this kind? If not, it's extremely unlikely that someone has deliberately cursed you. Such people tell their victims, because telling the victim gets their fear working towards the intended goal. That's how curses work - they trigger your fears which sets up waves of negativity, emanating from you, which bounce back to you. You end up powering your own destruction. In the end, it does not matter whether the original source of your troubles comes from inside or outside, the only way to turn things around is to change the way you look at life. The answer is to get your mental powerhouse working for you instead of against you, and that part is 100% within your own control.

Let's start on the assumption that you actually have been cursed, though, because my advice will be the same, regardless. I'll start with what not to do. Don't pay anyone anything to remove the curse. It's commonly used to relieve you of money and personal responsibility, but rarely provides any relief from your troubles.It's illegal in most cities. The "psychics" who do this are experts at manipulating your emotions, and they won't stop until they suck you dry.

Even if you are able to find a witch or psychic who will volunteer to wave her wand over you, it will be meaningless unless you are willing to do whatever you can to get and stay clear and positive. I believe you have every bit as much power as any psychic. More so, because it's your life. You can put emotional energy into your recovery that no one else can match.

The first thing you have to do is detach from negative people and ideas in your life, and start focusing on the positive. When you feel that you are being drawn to something negative, when you feel deprived of something that should be yours, when people don't treat you as you feel they should, refocus your energy away from the resentment and onto something positive. There may indeed be people working against you, but there must be some people you love, trust and count on. Focus your thoughts on those people instead. They actually deserve your attention. If you have a hard time detaching, try the uncording exercise. Sometimes it works right away, sometimes it takes a couple dozen attempts before you start to feel free of the cording. I used to feel the need to do this twice daily. I now know when I've been corded and uncord only when I feel an energy drain.

In addition, try "Love Bombing". You don't even need to know who is cursing you. Just focus your thoughts on the best feelings you can remember. Pull up feelings of love, compassion, and forgiveness. Pull them together into a big ball of golden light in your heart. When you are ready, imagine that you see anyone who wishes you ill, and shrink them backwards in age until you see them as a little child. Then hand them the ball of energy, which surrounds them, and dissolves them. Then let the image go, and focus your thoughts on something positive. If you find that hard to do, then find someone to help. Start writing a list of your blessings. Watch a funny movie. Every time your mind goes back to the idea that you have suffered or that you are cursed, bring positive thoughts to mind instead. Don't leave any room for someone else's negativity to take you over.

These books are based on ideas that I believe will be helpful to you even though neither of them mentions curses:

"Why People Don't Heal" by Caroline Myss
"Controlling Others for Love and Profit" by James Roswell Quinn ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I helped edit the first edition.

Video: How to have "Psychic Protection"

Learn how to seal your energy field so you don’t absorb other people’s anxieties, fears, and pain. Learn some new techniques and avoid unwanted psychic intrusion with Rebecca Marina "The Prosperity Queen". I haven't tested all these techniques myself, but they do make sense to me and they could be useful. Please leave your comments if you have tried them out, I would love to have some feedback, especially on the posture technique.

What is the value of fear?

Recently in the Living With Your Psychic Gifts discussion group I noticed that the subject of fear was coming up in a few places, and I decided to try an interesting experiment with you. I'd like to give everyone the opportunity to participate through the "Comments" feature of the blog. There are two questions, and I would like everyone to try to contribute at least one unique answer to each of them. If you can't think of something someone else has said, then please let us know which one of the fears you resonate with most strongly.

I decided to use this format so you can remain absolutely anonymous if you wish. I'll go first to give you all an idea where I am headed. All replies will be moderated. Later, I'll address the fears that come up, but for now, just let fly! Get creative. If you aren't afraid, then imagine what someone else might be afraid of, but write it in "I" language.

One: What am I afraid of?

I'm no longer afraid of my psychic experiences, but in the beginning I had a lot of fear.

My biggest fear: I feared that I might be going insane, that I was making it all up or worse.

Two: What do I get out of staying in fear?

I got attention. A lot of people came to my rescue and showed me compassion.

Let's hear from you! Let's make this list as scary as we can!

Dutch empath is too sensitive

Lately I’m having troubles with my gifts and I was hoping that you might be able to give me some pointers.

You see, I have been blessed/cursed with a number of gifts and as I grew so did my abilities. However, while I got stronger empathy turned out to be my greatest gift and curse. For example, I’ve had my final exams just now and I nearly passed out from the amount of stress that the other students felt and I kept having a major headache while I was around them.

Another problem is the fact that I transmit a lot of energy leaving me drained and tired before the day is fully over. Some people cling to me for that reason and like leeches they drain my energy so they can make themselves feel better. One girl almost went too far and she drained so much of my energy that she left me feeling empty, hollow and depressed while I am not suffering from any depressions. I don’t really care for taking a swan dive into the pavement because people keep stealing my energy but I can’t fight it. I don’t know how.

I have been warned for the amount of energy and light that is radiating from me but non could offer any help because they weren’t experienced with it.

Could you please give me some advise on how to close and protect myself? I need to learn how to do so before it spins completely out of control for I already often feel like I can’t control my gift. That it is too powerful for me to handle without droning in and losing my own emotions to other peoples emotions. I don’t want to close myself entirely for my gift for I have been helping people with it.

Maybe this problem isn’t as serious as an Ouijabord releasing evil spirits but for me it is a problem nonetheless.

Please excuse me if my English isn’t all that good but I am Dutch… which is also the reason why I can’t find help. Most Dutch people too sober to believe in paranormal gifts such as mine. How can you get help if people don’t believe that you can ‘see dead people?’

Love, R.

First of all your English is excellent. If you are this good at expressing yourself in English, you must be an awesome communicator in Dutch!

Secondly, this is an incredibly important question. It's not as "scary" a question as evil spirits and Ouija boards, true, but far more people out there have this problem, and it goes a lot deeper into the spirit.

Now, to answer your question ... Have you noticed a pattern in how you put yourself down? How you put yourself "second"? Believe it or not, this is a big part of the answer to why you are so sensitive, and resolving it is key to the solution. You see I believe at a deep soul level you decided you "had to" be this sensitive, and belive it or not, you have chosen to allow others to affect you this way.

Five years ago if someone said such a thing to me, I'd have howled objections at them, so I know you are probably sitting back and shaking your head "NO way!" ... "I didn't chose this, is she nuts?" ... but please, bear with me here. I've walked a lot of miles in the same shoes.

Just under five years ago, I attended the LifeStream seminar. I didn't go there because my empathic abilities were running amok (they were, but that was the least of my woes). A friend sent me because I was miserable. I was at my wit's end, and willing to try anything. The class wasn't about psychic ability, it was more basic than that - how to be happier, more confident, have better self-esteem. After I attended the first class, I immediately noticed a boost in my mood, but as the weeks went on (and I attended the advanced class, IPI), I noticed something else. I wasn't "sponging up" other people's emotions anymore!

I haven't changed any of my metaphysical practices, with one exception - I meditate regularly now. If you don't do this, I recommend Ross Quinn's "Centering" CD. Do the exercise twice a day, morning and night. This alone will make a huge difference. If, like most people who write me, you want faster results, I highly recommend you get yourself into a LifeStream class. I can't guarantee you the spectacular results I had, but if you get one tenth of the value out of it that I did (and that I have seen dozens of others get as well), you won't regret going.

If you can't get to a LifeStream class, I highly recommend Ross' book, "Controlling Others for Love and Profit" http://www.globalkeynote.com ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I helped edit the first edition. Get into any classes or seminars you can, get on Ross's mailing list (he's a LifeStream facilitator, and he travels a fair bit, never know when he might be in your area), do everything possible to strengthen your self esteem. Remind yourself daily that you have the right to your own happiness, and that you are responsible for no one's life but your own. Read my book. Do the uncording, grounding and white light exercises, make them part of your psychic hygiene. They will help ... but what really has to happen is you have to learn how to love yourself with as much passion as you love humanity. When that happens, the uncontrolled empathy will simply take care of itself.

As to your friend, she's what we call a psychic vampire. It doesn't make her evil or bad, but it's possible she's seriously depressed. She'd greatly benefit from the LifeStream class as well, but if she's not open to changing herself, then you may have to limit your time with her.

Depression or psychic abilities?

I've always had encounters but through the years I've been diagnosed with bi polar depression a sleeping disorder when I read your summary on the first page a lot of it made sense and I really just want answers. I mean I don't know what to do. I know I'm not depressed or bi polar but I cant really sleep that much and when I do I feel terrible or have terrible nightmares so if you could please get back to me I would greatly appreciate it.

C

Dear C,

You mention your challenges right now but you haven't really mentioned anything psychic going on. What sort of psychic symptoms do you have? Do the dreams or nightmares (heaven forbid) come true?

Remember that while you may be psychic, that does not mean you are not also depressed or bipolar. People with bipolar are among the most sensitive psychics I know. Bipolar disorder seems to come along with great psychic and creative talent. There is no shame in being depressed, either. I was depressed for over 30 years of my life before I found a class that helped me change things for the better. I too have sleeping disorders - more than one! And they can contribute to depression.

I have to make the obligatory disclaimers first before I tell you anything about being psychic: Listen to your parents and doctor. Don't go off any medications.

Now that that's out of the way ... the next step for you is to learn some sort of grounding mediation. See the meditations on the Living With Your Psychic Gifts web page. Do these exercises twice a day, in addition to whatever medical treatments you are taking. It will take a while for the meditations to make a difference.

Look for books by Caroline Myss - my favorite is "Why People Don't Heal". I recommend an amazing book by James Roswell Quinn called "Controlling Others for Love and Profit" ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I edited the first edition. If you want faster results, I often recommend a class to people who approach me as you have - the cost may seem prohibitive, but for me, it completely changed my life, and was worth a thousand times what it cost. If your parents like the idea, contact these people: http://www.lifestreamrochester.com/ and ask them when the next "Basic" is being held. The class is not about psychic development - it's a "life skills" class, all the things they should teach you in school, but don't.

Psychic Tools Demand Respect - Guest Blog

Guest Blog by Danielle Doust of GlobalPsychics.com

Experiencing the Tools

Most psychics will prefer that you not touch their cards, for example, except perhaps to draw cards or to cut them. We will not leave a reading open… Because we respect the energy that is activated with the Tarot. If we must leave a reading for a time, we will typically cover the cards until we can get back to them. Over time, the tools we work with psychically acquire their own energy. Therefore Tarot cards, pendulums and other divining tools are usually wrapped in special cloths and kept in special places.

Respect comes from understanding the nature of the tools and the energy that we work with, and since I have witnessed their power time and again, perhaps respect comes from experience. It is through experience and testing that I recognized each tool attracts its own energy, the runes and the I Ching for example, are very different in feeling tone and offer a different perspective than the Tarot - yet all three will come up with similar, often related answers to the same question.

I experienced also that some Tarot decks and divining tools can work at much lower vibrational frequencies. For example, the Ouija Board attracts a great deal of lower astral energy and can wreak havoc if not carefully managed. I was shocked therefore, the first time I saw a Ouija Board on the shelf with toys and games in the kids' section of a local department store.

We have written a number of articles over the years about ouija boards, (search ouija boards on our site) but this next story is probably the best example of how talent and inexperience can make life very scary for budding psychics.

I was hoping I would get some help here as to what is going on. Ok, awhile back, my friends and I got together at my house to have a little fun with my brand new Ouija Board. The session started out fine, and we came across a spirit supposedly named "Evan". He appeared really enraged and we asked him if we should go, but he forbade us from leaving. We asked him if we could help him and if he could tell us what was wrong, and he said he was mad, of course. We asked him who he was mad at, and he spelled out "A". So we asked him if he was mad at Amanda, and the pointer immediately went to yes. Evan wouldn’t tell us why he was mad at her, he just said it was HER and not anyone else. He asked Skylar, myself, and Kaylee to remove our hands from the board because he wanted to talk to Amanda. He began threatening us and saying, "You All Need to Die" and such. Finally, after a long time of begging, he let us go. My friend Amanda called me in a panic as she was walking back to her house at 11 pm with Kaylee saying that there was someone following them. Of course, it was creepy and we didn't know what to do.

Later, my friend, Amanda, called me in a panic and told me that she saw a dark shadow go by her room when she was the only one home. I mean, at first, we both thought it was just a figment of her imagination, but then the next day at school, she told me that when she walked into her room, she saw a little boy (about 9 or 10) with black hair and pure black eyes with the faintest blue skin sitting next to her bed by a chair that had her Ouija Board in it. We didn't know what was going on. She told me that she’s tried to talk to him and he’s answered her, telling her his name was Eric. They had talked a lot since.

Soon, Amanda invited myself and Skylar over to her house because we wanted to just hang out. Before long, we started to all get this weird feeling that someone was watching us. And we walked downstairs then came back up. Right on the wall, there was a sticker that said "X4" on it and we had no idea what it meant because it wasn't there before and we were the only ones home besides her dad, he was outside. Then when we were downstairs again, Skylar and I heard someone sigh angrily, "Ughhhhh" and it was whispered in an angry male voice and her dad was still outside. We were freaked out, and so we ran back upstairs. Amanda suddenly got a really sharp pain in her side and when she looked down at her stomach, there was a long burnt mark/scratch shaped like "/". Later, Skylar got the same thing, except in an opposite direction. I, being the brains, put it together and noticed that the stickers meant something… The scratches, when put together, formed an “X”. We were all beginning to get really scared, wondering what the "4" meant. I convinced Amanda to try to contact Eric and ask him what was going on, and he told her that it was his father, Evan. He hated Amanda and wanted her out of "his" house. Evan wouldn't let me see him, but he let Skylar see him. Amanda asked him later on and he said he thought Skylar was me. But anyways, we came up with the idea to try to talk to Evan and find out what he wanted, so instead of using the Board, we closed off the stairwell and set Amanda's cellphone to record. We asked the spirit questions, and when we got the recording back, we heard in a deep man’s voice that sounded like it was underwater and choppy, "X4, X4, X4, X4 ... Get out... [some random stomping] ... Get back here ... [in a little boy voice] Hurry." And then the phone turned off. We were so scared and didn't know what to do, so we called my mom and asked her to pick us up immediately. Later, we found out what the 4 meant ... We stayed at Amanda’s house for 4 hours before we knew we had to leave.

Amanda hasn’t heard much from Evan or Eric since, but I was wondering, what happened? Did we cause something to happen by communicating through the Board? Or our imagination?

Michelle

Thank you for your question, I want to start by saying yes, what you have done is opened the door to the spirit world through the board. This is not a game, it does work and you do invite spirits into your home by using this tool. Thnk of it this way. Open the door to the front of your house, put out an All are Welcome sign. That's what has happened. Now you must throw the board out and then say a prayer in each and every room of the house. Something simple as the Lords Prayer would work wonderfully. Make sure the board is tossed out.

Blessings, Jody

Jody makes a very good point - the trouble is that it is usually the lower frequencies, the troubled souls who decide they want to respond to the All are Welcome sign, they want a chance to play and kind of feed off the energy they can trigger in those who invite them in, since young people are naturally frightened of the unknown and will attract a lot of dark energy through their fear, spirits like this Evan will come through to take advantage of the opportunity to make trouble.
Ouija Boards are not toys, like every other psychic tool, our approach must be respectful in order to get useful insights and stay with the light.

Note from Brandi ... I personally recommend returning the Ouija Board back to the manufacturer Hasbro/Parker Brothers, with a note about your negative experiences. Don't just throw it out. Don't include a return address (you don't want it coming back to you). Let the company know that they are responsible and can accept the energies they are encouraging people to raise.

Hasbro, Inc., P.O. Box 200, Pawtucket, RI 02862.

Is this a scam?

I went to see a psychic for the first time and she shared with me a lot of accurate facts about myself and my family. She also told me that my dad's side of the family has an ancestrial curse from many generations past and that I was the Chosen one to break it. She said that I would have to give her my full name and birthdate to carve into specially made candles and that would cost me $500. I'm torn..Is this a scam or is this a true family curse? If it is a scam, how could she get most of the information correct? $500 is a lot of money and I don't want to do certain things that would bring me further from God. Please help me. Thank you for your time.

S

It's absolutely, positively 100% a scam. I have no doubt of that whatsoever, and I am so glad you asked this question. This is a common scam, and usually what happens next is the problems you were having continue, so you keep going back for more blessed candles until the psychic drains you dry.

Psychic ability isn't a sign of advanced spiritual growth. It's not a guarantee of even basic human goodness. It's a talent, like any other creative talent, and can be used for good or ill.

Are there family curses? Maybe. It may be there is a thread of dysfunctional energy running through your family and you may be the Chosen One to break that cycle (hint: the "Chooser" is YOU). I recommend you take the $500 you would have spend on the candles, and put it towards some kind of personal growth class. Learn about the reaction cycle, about forgiveness, and how to break the patterns of abuse. I have recommended one class here many times, The QuinnTessential Experience - there are others out there as well. I have recently discovered the work of Caroline Myss, and highly recommend her books and workshops. Study self esteem, build your confidence. All these things will bring you blessings and power that you can't begin to imagine now. All the "blessed candles" will do is make the bank balance of this "psychic" a bit bigger. How you break the cycle is to learn to love and respect yourself ... and doing that will also bring you closer to God.

Brandi

I really don't what to do

Dear Brandi,

I'm 15, and I'm not sure what going on with me. I think I may be psychic but I'm not sure. I started noticing this bizarre change 2 years ago, when I was working in my Mom's store. I would sometimes fall asleep and then when I'd wake up the lights were off, the door was locked, and the sign was turned around. Then sometimes I would see thing out of the corner my eye, like a person, but then I'd would turn to look and it or she or he was gone. Other time I would hear something, a voice, someone fiddling through merchandise, but every time I'd to see what was up or answer no one was there.

One day when I was working with a friend of mine, I was able to pin point where they were. I was able to see the building we were in before I was working in there and I saw 3 or four boys standing against the back wall. She heard them as well, and we also were able to feel them. One of the tables actually moved or shock. Also we kept placing things on the table and going back to get them only to find that somebody or thing moved them.

She asked me if anyone else in my family could do and I know my mom has had experience with demons and ghost, as well she can tell just by looking at an animal if something wrong and 9 times out of 10 she's right. Then was another time around the same time I was working at the store, and something bad happened to me at school, but before it happen I got this really bad feeling in my stomach and I just felt like I want to leave, to lay down, and I got really nervous and anxious, before it happened. Also I still get that feeling every now and then only every time it seems to get worse and I really would like to know how to maybe stop, not completely but to where I can function, and not feel so I don't know sick.

I don't dream and when I do it's very rare, and lately I've been looking for something and then I would go to bed I'd wake up from a dream in that dream I would find it was I was looking for, and then I would go look for and it wasn't in the exact spot it was in my dream but was within a foot of where I found it in the dream. I really don't what to do, I just don't how to process this and really just kinda want it to stop, or not feel so weird, and maybe feel more normal if at all possible?

N

Dear N,

It sounds to me like the gift runs in your family. What does your Mom say about it? Can you talk to her about your experiences? Sometimes being able to talk to others is all the comfort we need to realize that we're not crazy or really all that different. "Normal" is really just a cycle on the washing machine - it's not a real state of being human. Everyone is someone else's weirdo. What makes you different is what makes you wonderful, in my opinion. If other people won't accept you for who you truly are, then there is something wrong with them not with you. I know none of that is much comfort right now, but one day you'll wake up like I did and realize the truth in this: you can't be anyone but who you are.

As for stopping the psychic stuff, you can slow it down somewhat sure. You might be able to stop it altogether in some cases, but that may have the side effect of damaging you emotionally and physically. It may cut off your creativity. What you really need to do is accept it. Your dream abilities are helpful to you ... why would you not want to have that advantage?

It also sounds to me like there is a ghost in your Mom's store. My advice would be to befriend the spirit. When you are alone there, or together with your Mom, if she is open to the idea, sit down and have a chat with your spectral friend. Tell him or her (or them, there may be more than one) that they are dead, and the dead don't go shopping.

Seriously! ... I really mean that. As silly as it may sound, most ghosts simply don't realize that they are dead. Most of them don't want to cause a disturbance. They just don't know how to move on. Tell them they are dead and to move on into the light. Picture a vortex of light outside the shop where they can go to contact their loved ones and angelic guides. Wish them well on their way. The more comfortable you get with this stuff, the less this sort of thing will bother you.

Brandi

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Help me!

Hi, I wrote you the other day I need help. I have been dealing with all kinds of things. I feel pulling and tugging when I go out in the stores or places to eat. I feel cold wind and I seem things some time on people I feel hands on me. Sometimes I see darkness or light around people I see colors I feel things all the time. I feel other peoples stuff all the time. I’m in battles all the time. I feel sick but docs never find anything.

I had 2 near death experiences and I have been to heaven and seen darkness I also know I was to sing and heal. Also I don’t now what happened but my life has gone upside down, no jobs cant get one anywhere, no money, I don’t know what is going on. I feel angels and see angels but I also see bad things. I feel as if I’m going crazy and I can’t live with anyone or there spirits. I feel as if I’m a magnet.

Help me.

T

Dear T,

The truth is that we are all magnets. Our thinking determines what we pull to us. If you believe you are a magnet for bad experiences, then that is what you'll tend to see and that's what you will create more of. This process is called the "Law of Attraction". Many, many books have been written about the LOA, including "The Secret" which is a huge hit as a movie right now as well. You may be able to find a copy online somewhere. I also recommend "What the Bleep Do We Know".

Think about the positive things you are seeing. You see angels ... that's an awesome thing! There are people who have prayed all their lives for just one experience like that. You have had a near death experience and have seen Heaven. You have healing abilities, musical talent! Celebrate your gifts, and accept that with great power comes responsibility, and sometimes challenges. As you change your feelings about these experiences, they will seem less stressful and dramatic to you. Eventually, you will find that they truly are gifts and not the curse you imagine them to be right now.

If you want to bring things down to a manageable level quickly, you have to learn how to ground your energy. See this excerpt from my book, Living With Your Psychic Gifts: http://www.psychicprotection.net/articles/grounding.html

If you want to get in touch with your emotions quickly, I highly recommend a class called The QuinnTessential Experience. It's only available in Toronto at the moment, but there is a similar class in Rochester NY called LifeStream and in Florida called LifeWorks. This class literally saved my life, at a time when I felt very much as you say you feel now. It's not about being psychic - it's about dealing with the emotional baggage we all carry as human beings. I found that once I got in control of that, my psychic experiences just fell into place in a positive and healing way.

Little Star Lights

Brandi,

I keep seeing little star lights out the corner of my eyes and then they are gone. What are they I also see like white mist sometimes.

Love Janet

Dear Janet,

Well, first things first, the practical stuff ... have you had this checked out with your doctor or eye doctor? What you describe here are common symptoms of migraine and eye problems, and you need to have these ruled out first. If you see your doctor, there is no problem with your eyesight, and you are not having severe headaches, then most likely these lights are the attempt of your guides or angels to catch your attention. Sometimes these little "twinkle-stars" are a spirit's way of saying "I'm here, and you are not paying attention!" I sometimes get white sparkles, and sometimes blue. I think the blue ones are angels, the white ones are more likely human spirits. If there are no emotional sensations one way or other, I would not be concerned about them.

Whenever I get these kinds of things, I stop what I am doing (if practical), and meditate for a while. Sometimes I do get important insights during these times, and sometimes I don't, but I always thank whoever is saying "Hello" for dropping in.

Brandi

Confused and Upset

I have seen spirits at a very young age, but no one in my family believed me and in fact my mother told me I was evil and going to go to hell for seeing them, so I think I tried so hard not to see them, that I no longer do. I do have dreams where I see them and they tell me things, also I hear them at times, and I sense them always. What I am bothered with is this, last week a teenager drown not far from me, the day before he drown I suddenly, and for no reason at all, thought to myself that there would be a body floating down the river, I go out back everyday and look at the river, I find peace there, it's in the back of the house, I have never had that thought before though, then the next day I heard about the boy, he would have floated right past my house at exactly the same time I had that thought the day before. This happens to me all the time, what good is having this knowledge if I don't know who this will happen to or when, or even how to prevent such things? If I happen to see a spirit now, I am so scared I must pass out or something cause I fall right to sleep. I also get severe migraines, I don't know how to control this "gift", can you help me?

 

Confused and Upset

 

Dear Confused,

 

First let me address your mother's reaction to your seeing spirits. That's not an uncommon belief amongst some Christians, but it is not supported by the Bible!

From 1 Corinthians 12:

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but the same God works all of them in all men.

Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. To one there is given through the Spirit the message of wisdom, to another the message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues, and to still another the interpretation of tongues. All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he gives them to each one, just as he determines.

Clearly, what you have experienced is okay with Saint Paul. I think he's a greater authority than your mom (or mine, who had the same reaction initially), or me for that matter. Simple logic says that a loving God would not give you this ability, which is hard to control for the best of us, then condemn you to eternal damnation for things you can't help! It's not your fault, or even hers, that your mother is afraid. For generations, people have been selectively reading the Bible to support their own prejudices. This is one area where they have absolutely no justification for it. Saint Paul is absolutely adamant - what is happening with you is an outgrowth of the Holy Spirit. It is a blessing, not a curse.

It can be a mixed blessing though. I have also asked why am I given this knowledge if I don't know who this will happen to or when, or even how to prevent such things, many times. I don't have a satisfactory answer, and I've been studying for over twenty years. I have come to terms with that however. That is just the way it is. I don't know what God's greater plan might be. I try to help when I can, but when it is not possible or practical for me to make use of it, I simply make a note of it in my journal, or here in the blog. Maybe each individual moment of insight is not the important thing. Maybe it is more generally how I let my intuition guide me. I don't get attached to finding meaning in each case so much anymore. I do what I can, and take pleasure in that. Otherwise I just accept that there are things I can't know. I don't beat on myself or feel guilty when I can't use it to help others. Sometimes they don't want this kind of help. Sometimes it is risky to speak out. Sometimes I am not sure of my own insights. I feel my responsibility is to develop this gift to the best of my ability and to share what I know where it is welcome. Aside from that, I don't know what it is for. I figure one day it will make more sense to us all.

I think you are scared of spirits because of what your mother said, and not because they are inherently scary things. They are simply people without bodies. People are mostly good. So are spirits. Yes, now and then you will stumble across a frightened, confused, or even very rarely, a negative spirit. But they can't really harm you, can they? Other than being frightened, have you been harmed in any way? And you have control over that. You can decide to accept what is happening to you. When you do, you will find that the experience gets more and more positive. It's funny how that works, but fear is your enemy, it is not your friend. Once you get that, your life will change for the better in ways you can't begin to comprehend. For example, I still occasionally have migraines, but they are far less frequent than when I was in "flight/fight" mode.

I do recommend you get the book or the eBook and study the meditations and visualizations in it. I do daily morning and evening meditations. You can find other meditations online. Your local Buddhist temple or new age shop may offer a meditation class - almost any kind of meditation will be helpful to you. Just sitting by the river may help calm your mind. I also keep a journal of my insights.

What do you do to balance?

I have a question for you regarding your sensitivites to the realm and people's emotions? I also suffer from that and depression I talk to the other side for people and I do angel readings. I am so unsure of my profession in the healthcare field I am exhausted from the eneregies. At home I have a special daughter and I am exhausted and then the emotional needs of others exhausts me. What do you do to balance yourself? I know I pray, walk and try not to delve into all my addictions I have had to hide this sensitivity.

C

Dear C

Well you did not give me your time or place of birth, but with what I can read of your chart, it's no wonder this is a challenge for you. You have a T-Square with the Moon, Jupiter and Neptune. The addiction issue is clear from Jupiter Square Neptune. You feel everything "big". It can be difficult for you to discipline yourself, and find an outlet for your talents, because emotionally you are swinging from one extreme to the other. Top it off with your sensitivity and the slightest thing seems to tip the pendulum from one extreme to the other.

I can relate, I have been through a lot of what you have. There is hope. I learned that I had a choice what energies I permit in my space. I have learned where the boundaries need to be for my emotional health. It was a simple matter to decide to do this - I just needed to learn how to do it.

I found some of the answers I was seeking though The QuinnTessential Experience (TQE), an experiential personal growth class. If you can't afford to go to the classes, I recommend a book written by James Roswell ("Ross") Quinn, one of their facilitators, called "Controlling Others for Love and Profit" ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I edited the first edition. Another option may be to keep your eyes open for classes taught by some of the folks involved in the movie "The Secret". I think these classes are sometimes over-priced, and I don't know if they are as good as TQE, honestly. But some of what they are teaching is on a similar vein (I like what I have heard Lisa Nichols say so far). The bottom line is that you can simply decide not to let other people wear you out, and still be an effective healer. The best way I have found, the way that really "sticks" with people is in group experiential classes like TQE. I have seen people get a lot out of Ross's books, but it is like a glass of water. In the classes, people really jump in the pool.

Other ways I balance things out? I meditate every day, both morning and evening. I use the concepts in Ross's Centering CD. I journal about my experiences, I keep track of my emotions and what triggers them. I set my personal boundaries, and stick to them. I suspect that you feel an awful lot of responsibility for others, and this is the reason you feel so exhausted all the time. I don't take responsibility for other people's happiness anymore. I still want to help others, but the funny thing is, when I am able to release my attachment to the outcome, not only am I more effective, I am a lot happier.

Am I Psychic?

I think it was last summer that I went to go see a psychic with my mom. The psychic told me that I was psychic and that I knew what people were thinking. I have anxiety disorder and hate crowds, I can hardly get to sleep at night, and I get really bad headaches out of nowhere that come and then just leave. This has really been bothering me, it would be great if I could hear what you have to say for me.

Thank you so much for your time.

SB

Dear SB,

You haven't mentioned whether or not you have had any psychic experiences, though the kinds of symptoms you have described are common with many psychics. In the end though, you are the only one who can ultimately decide if you are psychic or not, and you need to figure that out by keeping careful track of your intuitive experiences and dreams.

Journal-keeping is vital to your personal and psychic growth. You can go back over time and check the details. You'll find that you remember some things differently a week, month or year down the line. It is really helpful in so many ways. It will prove to you that you are seeing something "real", and where your blind-spots are. It keeps things grounded.

If you rule out any physical causes, and you have had visions or dreams that have come true, I recommend that you get a copy of Living With Your Psychic Gifts ... All the best advice that I would give you is actually already in the book. In the meantime, the best thing to do is to meditate every day, to regularly ground yourself, and to keep a regular journal of these kinds of experiences so that you can look back on them with more clarity in the future.

I do have a lower-cost eBook version available for $9.99, which contains the core material. If you don't know of any meditations that may help, and can't afford my book or eBook, I suggest starting at your local Library – they may have some good books available there. Your local Buddhist temple may also offer free meditation classes. There is nothing better for your peace of mind than meditation, and it will be helpful to you, no matter what is causing the anxiety attacks. One of the best guided meditations I know is on Ross Quinn's "Centering CD". You can buy a CD on his web site.

Brandi