My 12 year old daughter is suffering as she has the vision of those that have not moved on. The spirits are becoming more visible and calling her name. She is afraid she's losing her mind and I know she's not. I dont know how else to help her, someone has to help. She is so confused and frustrated. Please help us.
IC
Mental illness is rare in these cases, but I do normally like to rule out mental illness before I offer spiritual solutions. In this case I doubt that. Just be aware that if the voices are hostile or demand action from her, those aren't likely to spirits. With a child who is already sensitive about her mental state though you don't want to rush her off to the doctor as she's likely to take it the wrong way, such action could be more harmful than helpful. Just assure her that if for one minute you thought she was mentally ill, you would be the first to take her to the doctor, and that there is no shame in that, regardless.
As long as the spirits are simply trying to communicate with her, they are of no harm, tell her to tell them that she is too young and it isn't fair for them to try to communicate with her before she is ready. If they persist, tell her to tell them that they are dead, they have crossed over, and to seek out the light. If they still won't leave, tell them to seek out a funeral home, that eventually a portal will open and they can get to the light from there. Try some protective exercises first - try the White Light Exercise. If she is too uncomfortable with the idea, you can also speak to the spirits for her, even if you don't have the gift. You may not be able to hear them, but they can hear you. I doubt they mean to scare her, most of them are scared and confused themselves.
It's tough being 12 years old and feeling "different" (I should know!), it is hard enough at that age without seeing spirits. The most reassuring thing I can say to her is that everyone feels awkward at her age, and many people see spirits. I would ask her why she feels as though she is losing her mind? Would she think someone else was crazy if they heard or saw such things? Why is that? Then I would just listen. My wager is you find out she's told some friends who have teased her about it, or she's seen some skeptic on television who has put her thinking on that track. I would assure her that plenty of sane people see and talk to spirits all the time.
The more she resists, the more confusing and frustrating this is likely to be for her. The more she accepts it and sees it as no big deal, the easier it will get. Encourage her to seek your ear. Just listen - don't try to "solve" it for her or make it go away. Understand that she's going through a challenging period in her life - show interest, but don't make a big deal about it. The more "normal" you make it sound, the easier it will be for her to relax and feel more comfortable learning about her gift.
Find some stories about famous people who have visited mediums. Princess Diana was very fond of visiting psychics and mediums. Nancy Reagan had her own astrologer. Shirley MacLean is an Academy Award winning actress whose interest in these topics is well known - she's written books about it.
Showing posts with label Psychic Children. Show all posts
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Monday, January 28, 2008
I really don't what to do
Dear Brandi,
I'm 15, and I'm not sure what going on with me. I think I may be psychic but I'm not sure. I started noticing this bizarre change 2 years ago, when I was working in my Mom's store. I would sometimes fall asleep and then when I'd wake up the lights were off, the door was locked, and the sign was turned around. Then sometimes I would see thing out of the corner my eye, like a person, but then I'd would turn to look and it or she or he was gone. Other time I would hear something, a voice, someone fiddling through merchandise, but every time I'd to see what was up or answer no one was there.
One day when I was working with a friend of mine, I was able to pin point where they were. I was able to see the building we were in before I was working in there and I saw 3 or four boys standing against the back wall. She heard them as well, and we also were able to feel them. One of the tables actually moved or shock. Also we kept placing things on the table and going back to get them only to find that somebody or thing moved them.
She asked me if anyone else in my family could do and I know my mom has had experience with demons and ghost, as well she can tell just by looking at an animal if something wrong and 9 times out of 10 she's right. Then was another time around the same time I was working at the store, and something bad happened to me at school, but before it happen I got this really bad feeling in my stomach and I just felt like I want to leave, to lay down, and I got really nervous and anxious, before it happened. Also I still get that feeling every now and then only every time it seems to get worse and I really would like to know how to maybe stop, not completely but to where I can function, and not feel so I don't know sick.
I don't dream and when I do it's very rare, and lately I've been looking for something and then I would go to bed I'd wake up from a dream in that dream I would find it was I was looking for, and then I would go look for and it wasn't in the exact spot it was in my dream but was within a foot of where I found it in the dream. I really don't what to do, I just don't how to process this and really just kinda want it to stop, or not feel so weird, and maybe feel more normal if at all possible?
N
Dear N,
It sounds to me like the gift runs in your family. What does your Mom say about it? Can you talk to her about your experiences? Sometimes being able to talk to others is all the comfort we need to realize that we're not crazy or really all that different. "Normal" is really just a cycle on the washing machine - it's not a real state of being human. Everyone is someone else's weirdo. What makes you different is what makes you wonderful, in my opinion. If other people won't accept you for who you truly are, then there is something wrong with them not with you. I know none of that is much comfort right now, but one day you'll wake up like I did and realize the truth in this: you can't be anyone but who you are.
As for stopping the psychic stuff, you can slow it down somewhat sure. You might be able to stop it altogether in some cases, but that may have the side effect of damaging you emotionally and physically. It may cut off your creativity. What you really need to do is accept it. Your dream abilities are helpful to you ... why would you not want to have that advantage?
It also sounds to me like there is a ghost in your Mom's store. My advice would be to befriend the spirit. When you are alone there, or together with your Mom, if she is open to the idea, sit down and have a chat with your spectral friend. Tell him or her (or them, there may be more than one) that they are dead, and the dead don't go shopping.
Seriously! ... I really mean that. As silly as it may sound, most ghosts simply don't realize that they are dead. Most of them don't want to cause a disturbance. They just don't know how to move on. Tell them they are dead and to move on into the light. Picture a vortex of light outside the shop where they can go to contact their loved ones and angelic guides. Wish them well on their way. The more comfortable you get with this stuff, the less this sort of thing will bother you.
Brandi
I'm 15, and I'm not sure what going on with me. I think I may be psychic but I'm not sure. I started noticing this bizarre change 2 years ago, when I was working in my Mom's store. I would sometimes fall asleep and then when I'd wake up the lights were off, the door was locked, and the sign was turned around. Then sometimes I would see thing out of the corner my eye, like a person, but then I'd would turn to look and it or she or he was gone. Other time I would hear something, a voice, someone fiddling through merchandise, but every time I'd to see what was up or answer no one was there.
One day when I was working with a friend of mine, I was able to pin point where they were. I was able to see the building we were in before I was working in there and I saw 3 or four boys standing against the back wall. She heard them as well, and we also were able to feel them. One of the tables actually moved or shock. Also we kept placing things on the table and going back to get them only to find that somebody or thing moved them.
She asked me if anyone else in my family could do and I know my mom has had experience with demons and ghost, as well she can tell just by looking at an animal if something wrong and 9 times out of 10 she's right. Then was another time around the same time I was working at the store, and something bad happened to me at school, but before it happen I got this really bad feeling in my stomach and I just felt like I want to leave, to lay down, and I got really nervous and anxious, before it happened. Also I still get that feeling every now and then only every time it seems to get worse and I really would like to know how to maybe stop, not completely but to where I can function, and not feel so I don't know sick.
I don't dream and when I do it's very rare, and lately I've been looking for something and then I would go to bed I'd wake up from a dream in that dream I would find it was I was looking for, and then I would go look for and it wasn't in the exact spot it was in my dream but was within a foot of where I found it in the dream. I really don't what to do, I just don't how to process this and really just kinda want it to stop, or not feel so weird, and maybe feel more normal if at all possible?
N
Dear N,
It sounds to me like the gift runs in your family. What does your Mom say about it? Can you talk to her about your experiences? Sometimes being able to talk to others is all the comfort we need to realize that we're not crazy or really all that different. "Normal" is really just a cycle on the washing machine - it's not a real state of being human. Everyone is someone else's weirdo. What makes you different is what makes you wonderful, in my opinion. If other people won't accept you for who you truly are, then there is something wrong with them not with you. I know none of that is much comfort right now, but one day you'll wake up like I did and realize the truth in this: you can't be anyone but who you are.
As for stopping the psychic stuff, you can slow it down somewhat sure. You might be able to stop it altogether in some cases, but that may have the side effect of damaging you emotionally and physically. It may cut off your creativity. What you really need to do is accept it. Your dream abilities are helpful to you ... why would you not want to have that advantage?
It also sounds to me like there is a ghost in your Mom's store. My advice would be to befriend the spirit. When you are alone there, or together with your Mom, if she is open to the idea, sit down and have a chat with your spectral friend. Tell him or her (or them, there may be more than one) that they are dead, and the dead don't go shopping.
Seriously!
Brandi
Monday, July 23, 2007
Child Senses Spirit of Loved One
Hi Brandi - can you please help with this question? I have a 2 year-old daughter who appears to have psychic abilities as she can see and hear a recent loved one who has recently passed away. The strange thing is when he is present she hear a sort of humming/buzzing sound which sometimes scares her as well as (sometimes) getting a sore neck (the deceased loved one hung himself). I would really appreciate a response to help me deal with this.
CF
Dear CF
The humming/buzzing sound may be coming from the loved one, but it may also be coming from the distinct probability that your daughter also has out of body experiences on a regular basis. This symptom is common with psychics of many different kinds. My suggestion is to have her hearing checked, just in case, to rule out any physical causes. Whenever she hears it, be as comforting as you can. If it becomes uncomfortable, or she seems to be ungrounded, wash her feet and hands in cold water (not too cold mind you).
I would tell her lots of people have these experiences. I wouldn't tell her "there is nothing to be afraid of", unless she actually mentions being fearful. One thing I have discovered is that most children are not afraid of spirits until they find out that it is something their elders are fearful of. Think of the typical first haircut or dentist appointment. How do children react when we tell them "Don't worry, it won't hurt?" ... almost always with tears, because all they hear is "worry" and "hurt" at that age. "Spirits are not to be feared" puts the concepts of "fear" and "spirits" together in the same sentence. You may not have done this, but chances are someone has. It's well-meaning, but it doesn't work.
If she is truly fearful at this point, the best you can do is reassure her that this is someone who loved you and her and all he is trying to do is communicate with her, to let you know he is okay. Ask leading questions like, "How do you feel about this?" and "Did he say anything?" ... keep it age-appropriate of course, and back off if this upsets her. The idea though is to give her the idea that this is something perfectly normal and natural. She will have questions about how he died, and that may be better addressed by a child psychologist than myself, but my 2 cents is that honesty is always best (again at age appropriate levels, and without revealing facts that might distress her further).
As for this loved one, the way he died is a challenge for you. He's likely earthbound, and may be confused and disoriented. He needs some help crossing over. Then there is the profound impact on your family emotionally, never mind psychically, which may also need to be addressed. There is an excellent book by Edith Fiore called "The Unquiet Dead", that I highly recommend. In a nutshell though, tell him he was successful in ending his life, and that now he must cross over into the Light. His activities are upsetting and harmful to your child, and as much as you love and miss him, damaging to himself. It's not fair for him to keep coming back to her when he is causing fear and neck pains to her. I would do this while she is asleep, after the next time she reports him being present (not in the same room, children hear a lot more than we think when they are asleep). If you sense resistance, and/or she reports continued visits, let me know, and I will make some further recommendations ... but 90% of the time, these spirits leave on their own accord, once they realize that their presence is causing disruption.
Brandi
CF
Dear CF
The humming/buzzing sound may be coming from the loved one, but it may also be coming from the distinct probability that your daughter also has out of body experiences on a regular basis. This symptom is common with psychics of many different kinds. My suggestion is to have her hearing checked, just in case, to rule out any physical causes. Whenever she hears it, be as comforting as you can. If it becomes uncomfortable, or she seems to be ungrounded, wash her feet and hands in cold water (not too cold mind you).
I would tell her lots of people have these experiences. I wouldn't tell her "there is nothing to be afraid of", unless she actually mentions being fearful. One thing I have discovered is that most children are not afraid of spirits until they find out that it is something their elders are fearful of. Think of the typical first haircut or dentist appointment. How do children react when we tell them "Don't worry, it won't hurt?" ... almost always with tears, because all they hear is "worry" and "hurt" at that age. "Spirits are not to be feared" puts the concepts of "fear" and "spirits" together in the same sentence. You may not have done this, but chances are someone has. It's well-meaning, but it doesn't work.
If she is truly fearful at this point, the best you can do is reassure her that this is someone who loved you and her and all he is trying to do is communicate with her, to let you know he is okay. Ask leading questions like, "How do you feel about this?" and "Did he say anything?" ... keep it age-appropriate of course, and back off if this upsets her. The idea though is to give her the idea that this is something perfectly normal and natural. She will have questions about how he died, and that may be better addressed by a child psychologist than myself, but my 2 cents is that honesty is always best (again at age appropriate levels, and without revealing facts that might distress her further).
As for this loved one, the way he died is a challenge for you. He's likely earthbound, and may be confused and disoriented. He needs some help crossing over. Then there is the profound impact on your family emotionally, never mind psychically, which may also need to be addressed. There is an excellent book by Edith Fiore called "The Unquiet Dead", that I highly recommend. In a nutshell though, tell him he was successful in ending his life, and that now he must cross over into the Light. His activities are upsetting and harmful to your child, and as much as you love and miss him, damaging to himself. It's not fair for him to keep coming back to her when he is causing fear and neck pains to her. I would do this while she is asleep, after the next time she reports him being present (not in the same room, children hear a lot more than we think when they are asleep). If you sense resistance, and/or she reports continued visits, let me know, and I will make some further recommendations ... but 90% of the time, these spirits leave on their own accord, once they realize that their presence is causing disruption.
Brandi
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
Psychic Children
My niece foresaw the Virginia Tech Tragedy. We always new she was going to have a much stronger Psychic ability that the rest of the family but it's all coming to a head at an amazing rate and it's scaring the crap out of her. She see's orbs, ghosts, spirits, they follow her home, events have happened at school in her classrooms for all to witness, she hers conversations, she feels their feelings. We are having trouble trying to comfort her and remind her that this is a gift. Any suggestions? This is not a joke. I need to find her some help. She's too strong psychically. It's like a switch was turned on in her psyche and the rest is history. Where can we find help? We know she is psychic but we don't know how to help her except to support and comfort her when things get scary.
SS
Dear SS,
The first thing is to remember to have an attitude of detached interest when she shares her experiences. What I mean by that is be interested, encourage her, but don’t make a big deal out of this. If she feels fear, it is in part because what she sees is scary, and in part because the adults around her react with the shivers when she brings it up. That gives children the clear message "This is a big deal, it's a scary thing". The truth is, it does not have to be scary.
Wherever you can, ask don't tell! Learn how to do "Active Listening". That's a technique featured in "Parent Effectiveness Training" (PET). Essentially what you do is guide the other person to come to their own conclusion with some leading questions. I have an outline on my anti-bullying section here. I also recommend looking into PET ... it will help you deal with other emotional situations – psychically sensitive kids also tend to be emotionally sensitive as well.
If I spoke to your niece, I would acknowledge that I have had some scary experiences of my own. Then I would ask her if she has ever had a scary dream. Chances are good she will say yes. Then I would ask her if she was ever really hurt by something in a dream. Once she woke up, didn't the scary thing go away? Of course the answer is yes there too. So I would ask her if she sees any difference between her visions and impressions than dreams in that regard. While they are happening, they may be scary, like a movie or a dream, but once they are over, nothing bad has ever happened, has it?
Encourage her to start keeping a journal of her experiences. Teach her to meditate. Teach her some of the protection exercises in my book (especially grounding), or those techniques that your family has taught in the past. Remind her that you and others in your family have a similar talent. Tell her it's natural, most people have it, but other families don't all talk about it because they have different traditions about it. See if you can bring her along to local classes or seminars. One I recommend for children is "The Virtues Project" ... it's not about being psychic, it's more about better communicating, and that will help her in many ways, not just as a sensitive. There may also be psychic classes, meetings or gatherings in your community. If she is surrounded with people who are open-minded and supportive, she will eventually realize that this is a normal part of life.
One last thing ... if she is having any trouble integrating what she saw with the Virginia Tech tragedy, it will most likely take the form of guilt and grief.
About guilt ... Let her know that many others also likely foresaw it, but it's rare we get enough information to act on these things. Nothing that happened was her fault, and there was nothing she could have done to prevent it, regardless. Society is just not ready to listen to intuition about such things ... heck, people came forward with actual direct warnings from knowing the shooter, and even that could not prevent this from happening.
About grief ... even though she may not know any of the people who died, she may have a stronger than normal attachment to them. At some level, she may feel she knew them. Treat this grief as normal. Accept it. Get her counselling for it, if she is open to that. Even non-psychic children may be experiencing anxiety and trauma from what they have seen on TV. How much more traumatic must that be when a child has seen it in her psyche?
Brandi
SS
Dear SS,
The first thing is to remember to have an attitude of detached interest when she shares her experiences. What I mean by that is be interested, encourage her, but don’t make a big deal out of this. If she feels fear, it is in part because what she sees is scary, and in part because the adults around her react with the shivers when she brings it up. That gives children the clear message "This is a big deal, it's a scary thing". The truth is, it does not have to be scary.
Wherever you can, ask don't tell! Learn how to do "Active Listening". That's a technique featured in "Parent Effectiveness Training" (PET). Essentially what you do is guide the other person to come to their own conclusion with some leading questions. I have an outline on my anti-bullying section here. I also recommend looking into PET ... it will help you deal with other emotional situations – psychically sensitive kids also tend to be emotionally sensitive as well.
If I spoke to your niece, I would acknowledge that I have had some scary experiences of my own. Then I would ask her if she has ever had a scary dream. Chances are good she will say yes. Then I would ask her if she was ever really hurt by something in a dream. Once she woke up, didn't the scary thing go away? Of course the answer is yes there too. So I would ask her if she sees any difference between her visions and impressions than dreams in that regard. While they are happening, they may be scary, like a movie or a dream, but once they are over, nothing bad has ever happened, has it?
Encourage her to start keeping a journal of her experiences. Teach her to meditate. Teach her some of the protection exercises in my book (especially grounding), or those techniques that your family has taught in the past. Remind her that you and others in your family have a similar talent. Tell her it's natural, most people have it, but other families don't all talk about it because they have different traditions about it. See if you can bring her along to local classes or seminars. One I recommend for children is "The Virtues Project" ... it's not about being psychic, it's more about better communicating, and that will help her in many ways, not just as a sensitive. There may also be psychic classes, meetings or gatherings in your community. If she is surrounded with people who are open-minded and supportive, she will eventually realize that this is a normal part of life.
One last thing ... if she is having any trouble integrating what she saw with the Virginia Tech tragedy, it will most likely take the form of guilt and grief.
About guilt ... Let her know that many others also likely foresaw it, but it's rare we get enough information to act on these things. Nothing that happened was her fault, and there was nothing she could have done to prevent it, regardless. Society is just not ready to listen to intuition about such things ... heck, people came forward with actual direct warnings from knowing the shooter, and even that could not prevent this from happening.
About grief ... even though she may not know any of the people who died, she may have a stronger than normal attachment to them. At some level, she may feel she knew them. Treat this grief as normal. Accept it. Get her counselling for it, if she is open to that. Even non-psychic children may be experiencing anxiety and trauma from what they have seen on TV. How much more traumatic must that be when a child has seen it in her psyche?
Brandi
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