Confused and Upset

I have seen spirits at a very young age, but no one in my family believed me and in fact my mother told me I was evil and going to go to hell for seeing them, so I think I tried so hard not to see them, that I no longer do. I do have dreams where I see them and they tell me things, also I hear them at times, and I sense them always. What I am bothered with is this, last week a teenager drown not far from me, the day before he drown I suddenly, and for no reason at all, thought to myself that there would be a body floating down the river, I go out back everyday and look at the river, I find peace there, it's in the back of the house, I have never had that thought before though, then the next day I heard about the boy, he would have floated right past my house at exactly the same time I had that thought the day before. This happens to me all the time, what good is having this knowledge if I don't know who this will happen to or when, or even how to prevent such things? If I happen to see a spirit now, I am so scared I must pass out or something cause I fall right to sleep. I also get severe migraines, I don't know how to control this "gift", can you help me?

 

Confused and Upset

 

Dear Confused,

 

First let me address your mother's reaction to your seeing spirits. That's not an uncommon belief amongst some Christians, but it is not supported by the Bible!

From 1 Corinthians 12:

There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. There are different kinds of working, but the same God works all of them in all men.

Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. To one there is given through the Spirit the message of wisdom, to another the message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues, and to still another the interpretation of tongues. All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he gives them to each one, just as he determines.

Clearly, what you have experienced is okay with Saint Paul. I think he's a greater authority than your mom (or mine, who had the same reaction initially), or me for that matter. Simple logic says that a loving God would not give you this ability, which is hard to control for the best of us, then condemn you to eternal damnation for things you can't help! It's not your fault, or even hers, that your mother is afraid. For generations, people have been selectively reading the Bible to support their own prejudices. This is one area where they have absolutely no justification for it. Saint Paul is absolutely adamant - what is happening with you is an outgrowth of the Holy Spirit. It is a blessing, not a curse.

It can be a mixed blessing though. I have also asked why am I given this knowledge if I don't know who this will happen to or when, or even how to prevent such things, many times. I don't have a satisfactory answer, and I've been studying for over twenty years. I have come to terms with that however. That is just the way it is. I don't know what God's greater plan might be. I try to help when I can, but when it is not possible or practical for me to make use of it, I simply make a note of it in my journal, or here in the blog. Maybe each individual moment of insight is not the important thing. Maybe it is more generally how I let my intuition guide me. I don't get attached to finding meaning in each case so much anymore. I do what I can, and take pleasure in that. Otherwise I just accept that there are things I can't know. I don't beat on myself or feel guilty when I can't use it to help others. Sometimes they don't want this kind of help. Sometimes it is risky to speak out. Sometimes I am not sure of my own insights. I feel my responsibility is to develop this gift to the best of my ability and to share what I know where it is welcome. Aside from that, I don't know what it is for. I figure one day it will make more sense to us all.

I think you are scared of spirits because of what your mother said, and not because they are inherently scary things. They are simply people without bodies. People are mostly good. So are spirits. Yes, now and then you will stumble across a frightened, confused, or even very rarely, a negative spirit. But they can't really harm you, can they? Other than being frightened, have you been harmed in any way? And you have control over that. You can decide to accept what is happening to you. When you do, you will find that the experience gets more and more positive. It's funny how that works, but fear is your enemy, it is not your friend. Once you get that, your life will change for the better in ways you can't begin to comprehend. For example, I still occasionally have migraines, but they are far less frequent than when I was in "flight/fight" mode.

I do recommend you get the book or the eBook and study the meditations and visualizations in it. I do daily morning and evening meditations. You can find other meditations online. Your local Buddhist temple or new age shop may offer a meditation class - almost any kind of meditation will be helpful to you. Just sitting by the river may help calm your mind. I also keep a journal of my insights.

The Circle Meditation

When I did readings, people often used to ask me what their Life's Purpose was. I came to realize that the point of coming to incarnate life on Earth is not to discover a purpose that God has hidden from us like some silly game of emotional hide and seek, but is instead to create meaning out of whatever circumstances come our way. If we do have a purpose, then it is up to us to create it out of what we have, not find it hidden in the subconscious of some psychic we happen to meet.

I believe the best guidance to our true purpose is to follow what brings us joy. Unfortunately, too many people are stuck in an unending angst brought on by contrary values that insist on the one hand that work must be "hard" and on the other that we must follow the path of least resistance to find our true place in life.

The other big mistake people make is in assuming that one's career is the ultimate or only reflection of our purpose in life. I've found it hugely rewarding to participate in The QuinnTessential Experience, yet I make no money from that. I really do feel that The QuinnTessential Experience or something very much like it is my true purpose in life. Maybe I will become a facilitator one day, maybe not, but regardless, that is where I find the deepest, most profound meaning in my life. Your purpose does not have to be your career.

Still, for most people, career ends up being their purpose, and many people are stuck when it comes to making career decisions. While seeing a good psychic or astrologer may help clarify things, in the end, you are the one who makes the choice. If you are finding yourself stuck with any choice, I highly recommend the following clarifying meditation to open your heart and mind to your highest joy. I would dearly love to have your feedback on this ...

Mentally prepare yourself. Center, meditate, if you use the Silva Method, go to Alpha, or simply relax in whatever method works best for you.

When you are mentally ready, imagine yourself at the beach. As you walk along, you will notice things. Pay attention to anything that draws your attention. While you are walking, gently ponder the circumstances that have brought you to this decision. Symbols of your circumstances will float up to mind. Does something get in your way? What kind of people approach you as you walk further down the beach? Do animals or obstacles enter your path?

When you feel you have gone through all the circumstances in your life that are relevant to the question, stop and draw a circle around yourself in the sand. Now, imagine that you are inside a magic circle that protects you from any harm, and brings to you all your needs. The circle magically transports any people from your life whose expectations, demands or desires may be affected by this decision, but somehow, they are all unconditionally loving and supportive in this new environment.

You can do anything you want to inside the circle. You are happy, prosperous, productive and fulfilled, though you are totally alone inside the circle. Mom, Dad, brothers, sisters, your best friends, “The Joneses”, peers and people you barely know, but care about, all are outside the circle, offering their total, unconditional support. Sit inside that feeling for a time.

Now, think ... what are you doing inside the circle? You may find yourself doing a lot of things, perhaps just one, but whatever you find yourself doing in that circle is a clue to your purpose. If nothing immediately comes to mind, thank everyone and let them float away. Now, an angel floats down from heaven. Pay attention to the appearance of this angel. It isn't the typical greeting card angel, it is a being of light, but a very unique one. This angel bears a gift for you. Make a note of what the angel is wearing, what the angel looks like. The angel will give you a gift. Thank the angel and let it float away. Now, look down at the gift ... what is the gift the angel left for you?

Most often the gift will be something symbolic. If the symbol isn't obvious to you, just keep that gift in mind for a while. Eventually it will break through and make sense to you.

Ground yourself and come back to reality.

Many people have had remarkable breakthroughs using this meditation, but it is only the first step. Now that you have an idea of the direction to take in your path, "reality" really starts to matter.

If you choose to move to another city, or to study certain topics in school, your parents may be hurt or confused. You may have to deal with loneliness and will probably experience money problems. The path won't always be easy, but at least you will have a goal, and an idea of what you want to achieve in life.

Some people are so confused by the demands of other people and of society that they cannot block out the needs of loved-ones, and may find that absolutely nothing comes to them inside the circle. Others may find that something outrageous occurs to them that they cannot accept as a practical alternative. This is when a qualified astrologer or psychic counselor might be helpful.

The Circle Meditation is featured in my Book Living With Your Psychic Gifts - Chapter 12. This meditation can be adapted to almost any major life decision, not just career decisions. Whenever you are stuck, not knowing what you really want to do, give it a try and see what comes up for you!

Be careful what you wish for

For a long time i believed i never had a gift. my nan, aunty, mum and sister all do. but i never showed any signs. I wished and wished for something to happen and now it has i cant control it. it started with a dream. i had spent the whole evening wishing that i could be "special" to, when i fell into a very deep sleep i dreamed that my nan who has been dead for 9 years now came and told me i had a gift i was shutting it out because i was afraid of what it ment. and that when i woke my life would never be the same again. now all i see is reflections of people i dont no. but yet when i turn no one is there. ill be sat in my bedroom when i will go cold and my body starts to tingle. now ive got the gift i dont no what to do with it i dont no what these poeple want. did i make a big mistake by wishing for something i cant handle. is my nan punishing me for wanting more than
what i already had. please help me.

k

Dear k,

There are quite a few people I think have indeed asked for something they weren't ready for where it comes to psychic abilities, but I don't know if that is the case for you. Your gift might have developed exactly as it has, regardless. The women in your family have the gift, it runs in families, chances are good that you would have developed it anyway. What happened in the past isn’t important. You can't change that, so there is no point in worrying about it. What matters is, what are you going to do with it now?

I think you are a bit nervous because you are realizing now that with power comes responsibility. But what you may have overlooked is that the first responsibility is for yourself. It doesn’t matter what anyone else wants you to do. What matters is what you really want to do. I noticed something in your email – often when you refer to yourself as “I” you use a lowercase “i”. Why are you trying to make yourself small? Think about that for a while, it may be related to the confusion you are feeling right now.

One thing I am pretty sure of, and that is I don’t think your nan is punishing you. In fact, I'm sure she just loves you and she’s just trying to help you with this – her words right true, don’t they? You asked for this, and now you are trying to shut it off. Your trying to shut it off is what is causing the problem. So the solution is to find a way to positively express this gift you asked for. Start keeping a journal. Do the daily “grounding” and “white light” exercises. You are so blessed to have others in your family who have the gift, learn what you can from the women in your family who share the gift. Learn what you can from the library, from web sites like PsychicProtection.net.

As for the visions you are having of strange people, don’t assume they necessarily have a huge amount of importance just yet. You are in the early stages of learning about your abilities, and the worst thing beginners do to themselves is to blow these experiences out of proportion. I did that at first, and now I know that I scared myself for no reason whatsoever. Most psychic experiences are ordinary, mundane experiences. It’s just another way of communicating, it’s only that in our culture people don’t talk about it openly. I wager that most of the people you are seeing are people who have passed on who are looking for mediums to talk to. Have you ever seen the movie “Ghost”? The Patrick Swayze character was wandering around after he died, trying to find someone to tell his lady how much he loved her. Most of the time when I see spirits, it’s something similar. Tell them you want your space, that they are only to contact you when you are ready for it. Tell them to go into the light, to pray for guidance, or to find someone else with more experience than you, until you are comfortable enough with your gifts to be able to discern their intentions and find the right way to help them.

Once you realize that this is nothing to be worried about, it will just become something you take for granted. You might decide to become a professional psychic, but you could also decide to become a highly intuitive doctor or lawyer instead. It doesn’t matter what anyone else wants you to do with this gift, it is yours to play with. Follow your heart.