No More Readings ...

As I currently don't have time to update my blog posts, and I am unable to fix a persistent login problem at Blogger/Google and as I have recently discovered the joys of Wordpress ... :-) ... I will be closing this blog and eventually will move it onto my own site at PsychicProtection.net. I appreciate the kind and thoughtful comments many of you have shared, and I hope you will look me up on PsychicProtection.net, Astrology.ca and on Facebook ( http://www.facebook.com/bjasmine and http://www.facebook.com/pages/Living-With-Your-Psychic-Gifts-Brandi-Jasmine/116049331761018 ).

I've decided to suspend the readings I've been doing on my blogs (http://astrologyca.blogspot.com/ and http://lwypg.blogspot.com/). My reasons are largely personal - I'm too busy with too many irons in the fire right now. I'll leave these blogs up though, and you can follow me at the following Twitter pages:

@bjasmine
@astrology_ca
@lwypg

You can also find me at these web sites:

www.bjasmine.com - www.astrology.ca
www.jasminecats.com - www.psychicprotection.net
www.niagaraspirit.com - www.onequestseminars.com

Dreams, premonitions and chills

Many of my dreams have been premonitions that come true. They are not very direct. No talking or words, just images that seem significant enough for me to piece together when I wake up. They typically do not make sense until the event has happened. However, I've gotten better at interpreting dream symbols and have been able to anticipate events. It seems at this point that these images and ideas can only freely flow through my mind when relaxed in sleep. I wonder if there's a way to become relaxed enough while awake to have similar experiences?

I also have a question about chills... sometimes while contemplating these dreams I have a sensation of energy driving through my body in the form of chills. It often happens when I am praying... Anyone else ever experienced chills? What's your take on this? For me, they seem to affirm that I am on a positive path in life or sometimes that I need to seriously change.

LAC

Dear LAC,

Yes, I have experienced these chills, I think they are quite common. I think they can be something physical at times, but when the coincide with strong psychic impressions that says to me a strong spiritual power, a guide or angel, may be behind their origin.

The best way to be relaxed while awake to trigger psychic impressions is through meditation. There are all kinds of different teachers of meditation available online - go to YouTube and type in "meditation", there are loads of guided visualizations available free of charge. I particularly recommend Ross Quinn's "Centering" CD. His Centering process is very similar to the Rainbow Meditation that is in Living With Your Psychic Gifts. One day I will get around to offering my own CD (laugh), but for now, give Ross's CD a try.

As for the dreams and premonitions, I know I sound like a broken record here (or a Napster Fart for you young whippersnappers), but journaling is the best way to to really nail down your progress with both dream interpretation and getting more accurate premonitions. I also highly recommend you join the Dream Catcher discussion group. I'm one of the moderators there.

Brandi

Response to Farmer Jane re: Ed Dames

I decided to make this reply a whole new blog posting because of the length of the reply. To see the post I am responding to see Farmer Jane's comment under my last blog post about Ed Dames.

Jane started off with some comments about Dame's timing protocols. I'm familiar with Dames' timing protocols. That's what he was using to time the "kill shot" event. He said the shuttle event would take place first, then within days the kill shot. How he claims to time events is to veiw prior events. So when you see "Event A" you will know that "Event B" will follow close behind.

I would argue that the protocols were about 80-90% fulfilled a year or two ago. It's just he doesn't accept them because the earth wasn't in fact destroyed. Almost everything else he predicted though *did* indeed happen. But if Dames were to admit that 1) he wouldn't have a nice juicy apocalypse to keep getting back on Coast to hype and 2) he would have to admit he was only partly right.

I don't think it's so bad to admit you got it 80-90% right!

I don't see anything helpful in scaring the crap out of people over events you say they cannot change (which Dames does quite often). He's adamant that he's always right, something that would trouble me even if 1) he was always right, which he hasn't been, 2) he wasn't taking a dime and 3) everything that he said was sunshine and Kumbaya.

If he was truly avoiding the "doom" label he wouldn't go on Coast every six months like clockwork with another horrific prediction then tell people there is no avoiding it, I'm sorry. I don't buy the victim act he puts on when he's pressed about that. He has a choice whether or not to keep pushing this time line back. I can say I avoid chocolate, that don't make it so.

True, fear motivates people ... for good or ill, and overwhelmingly mostly for ill. I don't know what he's supposed to be motivating us to do since he's said the "kill shot" will wipe out 90% of the population and there is nowhere you can go to avoid it. Seems to me he wants to motivate us to buy his CDs. I would have no issue with that if he wasn't using fear to do it. And last I checked. he was still charging $199.00 for his remote viewing CDs: https://www.remoteviewingproducts.com/lrv/order.cfm .

I've edited a book that deals with the human reactions. Fight and Flight are two of four primary human reactions and they mostly get us into trouble, but that's another discussion.

As for Tarot, I am sorry that was your experience, it's not universal.

If you are pulling information directly from Source, then no, you cannot be influenced. But who is to say Dames and his students are doing so? They have a record, no better than any other group of remote viewers. And they see things the other groups do not. The one common factor is these people train with Dames. It seems obvious to me that teacher influence can account for the homogenized results he's claiming, especially with regards to the "kill shot". I have worked in similar groups, and it becomes obvious that the groups are psychically tuning into each other or to the leader of the group. Double-blind isn't applicable to psychics! (laugh) I remember one "informal" survey I did where no less than a dozen psychics told me I would marry the same guy and they were all adamant he was not gay. Darlin' he was as gay as it gets. They were tuning into a zeitgeist of their own making. I'm comfortable assuming that's what's happening with Dames' students.

As for the Bible, Dames himself has a very contradictory view of prophecy in the Bible to the Bible's take on prophecy. The prophets were all quite clear that prophecy could be changed if behavior was altered. If people came back to God, then the disasters could be averted. Dames on the other hand has been adamant that everything he sees *will* come to play no matter what anyone does. In my experience no one can make such guarantees. And in fact Dames has had some spectacular misses along with his hits.

I am not one who believes people must be spiritually pure to be accurate psychically. I have known too many dysfunctional, alcoholic, side-show psychics who could nonetheless blow you away with their accuracy. And like Caroline Myss, I know plenty who don't "OM", eat meat and live very secular lives yet have terrific intuition. Nor does having this ability automatically make one spiritual. It's a normal human talent, like art or music. Some folks are better at it than others, but it's a gift God offers us all, regardless of our spiritual intent. There are lots of people getting away with abusing it, unfortunately. Of course if you are out of harmony with yourself, that may affect your judgment, but that's a psychological process, not necessarily a psychic one, imnsho.

Finally - any public figure is fair game for criticism. The only time I say "If you don't like it hit the end transmission button" is when someone is calling for censorship. I'm not calling for that. What I have been calling for is for people to do their homework and use their common sense before they follow anyone's teaching - and I include my own teaching in that statement.

How to Drop Anger

In my work in personal growth classes and as an intuitive consultant, I often come across people who ask me how to get rid of anger. What I say is that you will only change when you recognize 1) What anger is costing you and 2) What the "Prize" is for hanging onto it.

What is it costing you? Nelson Mandela once said "Resentment is like taking poison and hoping your enemy will die". But even though we may know our collection of stored resentment may be killing us, we still hang onto our outrage. How can that be?

As my good friend Ross Quinn says, we don't do these things to ourselves because we are stupid. We do them because they make sense to us, at some level. As painful as stored anger can be, there is a reason you are hanging onto it. It may be a big part of your identity. It may bring you attention, it may allow you to control certain conversations (and if that makes anyone here mad and are tempted to say "but you can't understand my pain ..." ... then you are busted, my dear). In your heart somewhere you may have magical thinking happening ("If I stay mad, that will hurt the perpetrator"). You could be stuck on "Why". Caroline Myss says people don't really want to forgive, what they want is the perpetrator to grovel at their feet (preferably in public) begging for forgiveness while they sit back and say "I'll think about it" ... C'mon admit it, we've all wanted that from someone, and in our hearts all know how silly and impossible it is. Any one of these reasons may apply to you, and none may. But somewhere inside the prize is hiding, and you need to recognize and relinquish its hold on you if you don't want to be a victim of it for the rest of your life.

My personal experience ... as a bullied kid, I found it very hard to forgive the teachers and the bullies until I recognized that while they were long gone out of my life, clinging to my resentment was kind of like dragging them along with me everywhere I went! Energetically, that is exactly what we're doing - our solar plexus is plugged back into the past, and into our abusers. It's as though we make a decision to carry on their dirty work for them. We become our own abusers! If you want to stop it ... then let it go. Take your solar plexus back. It's as easy as making the decision. I don't think about or talk about the abuse I went through, except to show how I've overcome it. When it comes up as an issue or reaction for me, I remind myself that's over now. I won't give my abusers one more second of my time or one droplet of energy that they don't deserve! Getting well was the best revenge. I will leave the justice part to God. Karma always takes care of itself in the long run.

Brandi

Ed Dames and Secular Apocalypses

Over on Twitter, @farmerjaneusa and I were having this conversation about Ed Dames, and I couldn't answer her there.

This won’t be an exhaustive list of what concerns me about folks like Ed Dames ... just a couple examples. Anyone who wants detail can Google Dames’ record. Before I get into my examples though, I want to say that I think Ed Dames, and some of the other well-known “modern prophets” actually do have an interesting track record and some pretty amazing “hits”. I believe Dames may have some ability in remote viewing, and I have heard positive feedback from students of his classes. But I’m ambivalent about prediction work in general and Ed Dames has a special place in the “toxic” category of psychics whose work I’ve followed.

I categorize “predictions” into the following categories:

“Horoscopes” are purely for entertainment value, imnsho. Yes, I do write horoscopes for my site Astrology.ca. I wanted to do a site where I taught people astrology, and it was all very serious, and when I finally let my business-savvy boss back at TUCOWS talk me into adding horoscopes, it finally started paying for itself, traffic went up by 5000% (not kidding). I do say though on that site that all horoscopes are purely for entertainment value. I want no one to take them seriously – the only reason I still offer them is it brings in enough traffic to pay for itself, and that gives me the ability to promote real astrology.

“Forecasts” can be visions, dreams, astrological or Tarot interpretations that focus on the future and stick mainly to a description of the vision or the energies involved. Forecasts avoid rigid interpretation. Interpretation is left up to the listener, or it is made clear that there can be alternate possibilities for the way a forecast may manifest (See “Forecasting versus Prediction”). I see forecasts as potentially useful, depending on how they are approached, and I have used them in my psychic work.

“Disaster Predictions” and “Apocalypse Predictions” are the two categories that trouble me the most. They seem similar, but the main difference is that a “disaster” prediction only focuses on a given event: an earthquake, terrorist attack, another peccadillo in the life of a troubled celebrity. The argument for making disaster predictions public is that a disaster could possibly be averted or modified in some way if the affected parties were made aware of it. I personally prefer a forecast mindset to the prediction, but I take no issue with disaster predictions in and of themselves. It’s only when there is an endless stream of them, or they seem to carry an agenda that I begin to question them. Apocalypse predictions however, I look at as toxic. Apocalypse predictions end in global disaster, the “end times” or the destruction of civilization. There are sub-sets within apocalypse predictions, the Christian Biblical Apocalypse being the most popular variant, however the Islamic faith also has a strain of Apocalypse prophecy that few in the West are aware of. What I call “Secular Apocalypse” is the variety favored by Ed Dames. He does not to my knowledge have a Biblical or religious tie-in to his “Kill Shot” Apocalypse.

Dames has been predicting his “Kill Shot” Apocalypse since back in the mid 1990s in appearances with Art Bell on Coast to Coast AM and on his web site. As I recall the course of events, he said that this “Kill Shot” would take the form of a gigantic solar flare aimed directly at the earth that would wipe out most if not all life on the planet. His school of remote viewing has (according to Dames) perfected a method of timing such events by looking at events immediately preceding the “main event” and in the case of the “kill shot”, he foresaw a Space Shuttle being forced down by a meteor storm, followed by the massive solar flare.

I actually give Dames credit for a “hit” on the “Kill Shot”. But I believe the “Kill Shot” has already taken place. I recall an appearance with George Noory during a Shuttle mission where the shuttle was brought back early and immediately afterward one of the largest solar flares in history was indeed recorded. I believe, as is often the case with psychic ability, that Dames and his team were affected by his own interpretation of the events they viewed. They “hit” on the Shuttle issues and the solar flare, but missed on it actually hitting the earth. Dames claims to be so certain of this prediction because many of his team see the same events, but he’s failed to account for the possibility that his students are “following the leader” so to speak. It’s a well-known psychic phenomena that sometimes a group of psychics will all be strongly influenced by their perceived leader. They may all get the same vision because it is the one strongly held by Dames.

Regardless, Dames must now insist that the event which has past is not the “real” “kill shot”, and that it is soon to come in the future. The “Kill Shot” web site continues to say “within ten years”, a very long predictive cycle that keeps getting pushed forward as it fails to materialize. That’s tremendously important for Dames, who makes a good deal of money selling “survival” CDs. In the meantime, the people who take this prediction seriously continue to live in fear of something that has already passed harmlessly.

Why I would call that toxic and irresponsible should be obvious. If you believe in the Law of Attraction, then you know that to focus on a negative, fearful event is to give energy to it and to risk creating it. While I think the momentum of thought is on the side of those of us who trust in the continued health of our solar system, I think it’s unhealthy to promote such an idea. First off, if it were to actually happen, there is absolutely nothing anyone could do to prevent it. It’s healthier to let people live out their lives without that burden of fear. I think it’s also unhealthy on an individual level. What kind of lives do people have when they live in this kind of fear? What kind of lives do they give their children? As a child of a parent steeped in fearful Biblical prophecy I can testify that it can have a profoundly stunting effect on a child’s psyche. Why strive for a better life when you are convinced you are going to die horribly anyway?

Not long ago, Dames predicted that Steven Fossett would be found in a specific location and as I recall that broadcast, he told Noory that if Fossett wasn’t within a certain radius, it wouldn’t be a hit. The searchers were covering a huge area, and (again if I recall correctly) that very evening that he was on Coast, they had found Fossett’s ID card. Dames’ location was considerably outside that radius and he stated quite emphatically that Fossett would not be found near the documents, and that if that did happen, he would count it as a “miss”. The next day though, some bones later confirmed to be Fossett's were indeed found near the documents. That night, Noory had Dames back on ... and while I listened with incredulity Dames claimed it as a “hit” and Noory verbally patted him on the back for his incredible powers. This last visit to Coast (what little of it I could bring myself to listen to), Noory again used this event as one of Ed Dames “major hits”! I’m flabbergasted by this revision of history. It’s almost as bad as what Sylvia Browne pulled on the Coast show, yet Noory is letting Dames get away with it. Then there is the history of his legal and PR problems with PSITech. I love Coast, but Noory is doing a lot of damage to his own credibility when he not only doesn’t question claims like this, he becomes a cheerleader for them.

As an intuitive myself, I believe in the power of what Dames calls “Remote Viewing”. It’s nothing new, it’s been done for centuries, and it can be effective to a certain degree. I also think notoriety for this ability can be abused for profit, political or religious gain. I think the true power lies in the now, not in the future or the past.

I also believe there will be disasters and challenges in our future, that’s part of life. No matter how good their disaster predictions, the big-name famous psychics cannot tell you or me individually who will be effected and who will not. So their predictions are interesting, entertaining and irrelevant. It makes sense to be informed and prepared for disaster no matter where you live (if you only store water you are ahead of 90% of people out there). Before you give any psychic prediction credibility, make sure to look at their overall record. Have a look at the skeptic sites. If our media interviewers won’t challenge the self-proclaimed prophets who appear on their shows, it’s up to you to do your own homework before you decide who and what to believe.

Ghosts and Psychic Ability

lately i've had some problems. See i knew i was psychic since i was 7 yrs old. But i had some issues with it because it goes off and on. I'm really proud of having this gift but i have this problem that i will only see bad things coming in my dreams. Also i saw a spirit once. And i believe my house is haunted even though i would like to know why it's haunted i don't know how to. Anyways i need help from you to tell me how i can expand my visions and see positive things too. Thank you for time, and please answer me soon,

CR

Dear CR,

I wouldn't worry about it going on and off like that, that's common. It happens to all of us. A couple things jumped out at me when I read your post. Did you notice how you don't say "I", you say "i"? It's a way of making yourself small. That is out of harmony or coherence with the pride you take in your psychic gift. Is there a part of you that doesn't feel you deserve to have "good" visions too? Do you spend a lot of your time worrying or fearful in general? The important thing regardless is to stay positive. When I first had my experiences, they were mostly negative too. I was terrified of them, and my fear drew even more negative experiences my way. Doreen Virtue tells people to ask their angels for help and I think that's a terrific idea - ask your angels or pray that you be given only those visions that are in your best and highest good, and when you get the odd negative one, don't dwell on it, just journal it and let it go. Over time you will find the visions change.



As for the haunting, they usually happen when something bad happens in a given place. They are very rarely actual spirits. I've made a video reply for you to explain this in greater detail. In the meantime, the best thing to do is to meditate every day, to regularly ground yourself, and to keep a regular journal of these kinds of experiences so that you can look back on them with more clarity in the future.

Brandi

More on Curses

I am a Ugandan born minister but ministering in Bungoma-Kenya. My main call in the the ministry is prophetic and I surely deal with curses. Please I want to get more on this.

F

Hi F,

In my experience with curses, the main mechanism of transfer is fear. Sometimes the person who thinks they are cursed has experienced something negative, fears it will happen again, and starts looking around for a reason why that happened. They may assume they have been cursed when in reality, either their own reactions have brought on their troubles, or sometimes they have simply had some bad luck. Other times, there is someone out to get them, and in many different cultures there are different rituals people can do, but again, the mechanism that is most effective is to simply tell the victim they are cursed (or drop some hints about it that they are sure to catch), and let their own fears take over.



I firmly believe that no one can curse someone who is walking in the Light. If I am firm and confident in my faith, I raise my energy to the point where their negativity simply can't reach me. We need to convince people that the most effective thing they can do to avoid or change a curse is to be happy, joyful and courageous. It's possible that through their faith in you or me that people could have their curses lifted for a time. If we do some kind of ritual, this could boost their confidence. If they have faith in our abilities, then maybe the curse can be lifted. But all we are doing is handing over a temporary fix. The next time bad times come along, they will come running to us for relief.

Personally, I feel it is important that people take responsibility for their own happiness, and I choose to empower them by insisting that they can take care of curses on their own. Everything that you can do to empower people to have self-confidence and courage will not only lift their curses, but will bring more joy into their lives and the lives of their loved ones, and I strongly believe that's what life is all about.

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Brandi Jasmine

All of my life I have experienced visions

All of my life I have experienced visions, most of which became eerily true. A couple years ago I started seeing and hearing ghost like images that follow people and some are hanging on or just touching the host. Recently I've concluded that there must be a purpose for my sight and started to investigate it. could you please give me your take on this. I would really appreciate it..thank you

SL

Dear SL,

I absolutely agree you will greatly benefit from investigating your gifts. The question you may want to ask yourself is "How may I be of service?" I guarantee the answer of that question will be rewarding beyond your wildest dreams.



Of course I recommend my book, but I also recommend you join our discussion group, and see what psychic books are available in the Library. Read, study, and journal everything you possibly can. You may find it a pain now but ten years from now it will be worth its weight in gold.

Brandi

A moderator's comment

I said I was going to fill in a little more of my philosophy on moderating my PsychicGifts discussion group, and told the members there that I would make this comment here on the LWYPG blog. I am hoping some blog readers may be motivated to join the group and some of the group members may find some good reading on the blog, and this will keep this off the group itself.

The Yahoo PsychicGifts group was initially started to give people with psychic ability a place to discuss their abilities. In time, that grew to include personal and spiritual growth as well. As moderator, I strive to balance the need for honesty with the need to keep the peace. I'm not perfect, I have made mistakes. I'm a human being with my own thoughts, opinions and issues. The participants have no idea how many times I just bite my tongue and move on ... well, my co-moderator Sarita knows (laugh). But when I feel strongly, I will jump in with questions and opinions. If anything I spend too much time trying to be respectful with those opinions - I have been known to spend more than two hours on a reply when I know it will be controversial. In the end, some people will react regardless of what I say. I can't please everyone.

I'm not running PsychicGifts to try to see how many people like me or agree with me. I'm not there to hold hands. We're all "sensitives" but PsychicGifts is not and will not become a victim support group, where the point is to always be "nice" and "agreeable", and to support one another in remaining victims. If that's part of your definition of "safe", this is not the group for you. To me, "safe" means no name calling or abuse, and everyone is allowed to have an opinion. Tell me not to question or challenge you ... and the way I see it, you are asking me to lie to you. Is that support? Not in my books. While I do not tolerate abuse, I do not expect participants to "agree or stay silent". I expect respectful discourse, but I do not expect unconditional agreement.

My intention is to motivate our members to step into their leadership, build their confidence, and provide a place where all views can be heard and considered. Argument and disagreement is not an indication of lack of respect. If someone takes the time to argue with you, then assume they are interested and engaged. Argue with passion and enthusiasm! Quote facts, give your impressions, but do not call people names or accuse them of abuse, regardless of the perceived justification. Do not imply you are smarter, more psychic, or spiritually superior - that is not only insulting, it will destroy your credibility. An insult is no substitute for an argument, and an argument is not cause for insult.

If you feel abused or attacked on any discussion group the only legitimate way to complain is to the moderator via private email. I'll consider a complaint, but if a post makes it to the list, I've already decided it's okay (especially if I've authored it). Be prepared to make a good case for it. In the open, stick to the facts of the argument, or expect to have your posts edited or declined.

Other people are not going to always be "nice" and always agree, even in a moderated group where we all share some common interests. That's just reality. No one can reasonably expect others to consistently agree. What we all need to learn is how to tolerate disagreement! Until that is so, we will always run away, pretend to be "nice", hide in the shadows afraid to express our opinions, or will jump down the throats of innocent people who are just expressing another opinion. We will hide, walk away, freeze or attack, and we will always wonder why we never feel "safe". I didn't set up this space so that you could never spread your wings, never stretch your comfort zone. If you feel upset right now, then make something valuable of it. Ask yourself "What is it that is being triggered in me and why?". At least then you have a shot at learning something. It's not that I have triggered you, it's that you are triggerable. If even one person gets this, then our small challenges will be worth every word.

What should I do about this spell?

This was posted by a person that has made my life hell for the last 3 months. I didn't read it because I was told not too. What should I do now?

(Binding spell deleted)

Anonymous

As far as the spell is concerned I wouldn't be worried in the least. Assume for a moment it is real and has power. So what? All it is supposed to do is keep the recipient from gossiping, lying and sending negative energy. So it won't have any serious negative effect on you. It does not call for any sort of harm. It is a protection from harm spell. If you are doing any of those things, the worst thing that will happen is you may find yourself frustrated. Metaphysically there is nothing to do, aside from the standard protection exercises everyone should be doing on a daily basis. A little "Love Bombing" couldn't hurt either.

Assuming it is not for real, and you are doing none of the things specified in the spell, then the problem is psychological and not spiritual. This spell would suggest then that this individual is mentally unstable if not outright paranoid. It's possible this person could be dangerous, and you want to keep them away from you and out of your life. I have some experience with bullies as well as psychic matters, and if you know this individual, and possess an address, if they are in your area, then I would get a restraining order preventing them from having any contact with you (including any electronic contact). Do not engage them! That almost never works. It may feel good to tell someone off if they are acting crazy or miserable, but nobody responds well to that. They only see your defending yourself as an attack on them, which they use to justify continued abuse.

If this is a cyberbullying situation, don't respond. Work on ignoring them completely. I would unsubscribe from any unmoderated (or poorly moderated) discussion groups you may share. Do everything within your power to actively avoid them. No matter how tempting they may make it to respond, don't. Use an email filter to automatically delete anything they email you. Un-friend them on your Facebook or MySpace page(s). Block them every way you can to keep them from contacting you. Cyberbullies thrive on attention. They will move off in 99% of cases within a week if they realize they are not getting through. For the remaining 1% further action may be needed. Contact moderators, ISPs, social networking sites and ask them to assist you in blocking this person. If they continue to attempt to get in touch with you, contact your local police or a good lawyer and ask their assistance in obtaining a restraining order to prevent this individual from contacting you via email or through any electronic means.

If none of this works, email me again privately with the details and I will see if there is something else you might be able to do.

Brandi

I think too much!

I have been reading all the posts and learning a great deal. I guess I would probably describe myself as being really overwhelmed right now! I almost feel unhealthy right now from constant headaches and light headed spells. Been told so many times that it is because of caffeine, even took all caffeine out of my diet...didn't change a thing. Friends and family can't understand my mood swings (I can't either for that matter, just thought I'm so intense cause I a Scorpio) I'm told I overthink things... I will get these sick, nervous feelings in the pit of my stomach and can't figure out why. Prime example 2 days ago, I was so nervous, felt something was wrong, didn't know what or why so I just dismissed it. The next day, felt I needed to call my mom, turns out she was at my sister's house. My sister's house had just burned to the ground, she lost everything.

There is so much i want to say and so many questions, but my mind is racing a majority of the time so it can be difficult for me to even complete some thoughts fully. I just want to learn how to get hold of this. I need balance in my life, I try to meditate...can't turn my brain off long enough, so you can imagine what tryin to get to sleep is like. So how do channel it? Will I ever have a clear mind? Will my moods be even?...

J

Dear J,

The prime problem here isn't your psychic ability. You nailed it yourself when you said "I can't turn my brain off". My best suggestion would be to get into a LifeStream class. It will take some time and money, and could involve some travel, but of all the things I know, it's the best option, works the quickest and is the most effective way to get at the root of how we all get in our own way. If that is truly impossible, one of their facilitators, James Roswell Quinn has written a fabulous book called "Controlling Others for Love and Profit" ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I helped edit the first edition. The book is currently out of print, he's working on a second edition. But there is an eBook version available.

In a nutshell, there are four basic reactions, Fight, Flight, Freeze and Facade. We all use them all at different times, but we each elevate one of them to an art form. From what you've said here, your primary reaction right now is Flight. What you need to do is spend more time in Evaluation. Force yourself to stop, think, and get your thoughts together. Celebrate yourself when you do so. It's like a muscle, if you keep exercising it, you'll get better at it. One really good way to do this is to start journaling. Do it every day, whether you have something to say or not. If you can think of nothing else, write an intention statement for the day. For example: My intention for today is to be focused. Then, at the end of the day, evaluate how focused you were, and why you were not focused. You will start to see a pattern. Journaling is the single best thing you can do to improve your psychic ability as well.

The best way to learn to meditate may be by doing guided visualizations. Quinn has a centering CD on his site. You may find many other guided visualizations online. Just Google "Meditation CDs". Try a few for different purposes. With someone's voice to keep you focused on the task, it may be easier to quiet your mind. Another idea is to simply sit still and pay attention to your breathing. Count your in and out breaths ... and notice that over a period of time you are able to maintain your focus for longer and longer periods. I am not one of these people who believes it is necessary to meditate for hours each day - I think 5-10 minutes twice a day is all most people need to start seeing benefits. It needs to be done every day, but you don't have to spend hours at it. Once you start to make a habit of it, and celebrate yourself for each victory, you will find that it gets much easier to hold your focus. Be patient with yourself, give yourself time. Don't expect to master it in days or weeks. For now, just enjoy it like a game. Let it be okay if you don't see progress right away, and you will progress a lot faster.

By the way I'm just reading a nifty book called "Women Who Think Too Much", I think it could be helpful in your case as well.

Green Lights

Not sure, but been having lots of flashes of light. Been seeing orbs, green ones. Maybe I just lack sleep, feels like lightning strikes.

J

Dear J,

Do you have any pain or discomfort at or around the time of these flashes? If so, it may be possible that the lights are physical/medical in origin, not psychic. Green is an unusual colour, psychic orbs are usually blue or white. I have had "migraine lights" and these are very different from psychic or angelic lights. If it is a very strong light, changes color and slides around your vision in writhing "w" shapes ... that's a migraine light. The pain may come before after or with the light. If it is light sparkles (like the kind you get after rubbing your eyes), chances are more likely that it's something psychic, in this case most likely a spirit who thinks you may associate them with the colour green perhaps? In any case, if there is any discomfort, please don't hesitate to see your doctor.