More on Curses

I am a Ugandan born minister but ministering in Bungoma-Kenya. My main call in the the ministry is prophetic and I surely deal with curses. Please I want to get more on this.

F

Hi F,

In my experience with curses, the main mechanism of transfer is fear. Sometimes the person who thinks they are cursed has experienced something negative, fears it will happen again, and starts looking around for a reason why that happened. They may assume they have been cursed when in reality, either their own reactions have brought on their troubles, or sometimes they have simply had some bad luck. Other times, there is someone out to get them, and in many different cultures there are different rituals people can do, but again, the mechanism that is most effective is to simply tell the victim they are cursed (or drop some hints about it that they are sure to catch), and let their own fears take over.



I firmly believe that no one can curse someone who is walking in the Light. If I am firm and confident in my faith, I raise my energy to the point where their negativity simply can't reach me. We need to convince people that the most effective thing they can do to avoid or change a curse is to be happy, joyful and courageous. It's possible that through their faith in you or me that people could have their curses lifted for a time. If we do some kind of ritual, this could boost their confidence. If they have faith in our abilities, then maybe the curse can be lifted. But all we are doing is handing over a temporary fix. The next time bad times come along, they will come running to us for relief.

Personally, I feel it is important that people take responsibility for their own happiness, and I choose to empower them by insisting that they can take care of curses on their own. Everything that you can do to empower people to have self-confidence and courage will not only lift their curses, but will bring more joy into their lives and the lives of their loved ones, and I strongly believe that's what life is all about.

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Brandi Jasmine

What should I do about this spell?

This was posted by a person that has made my life hell for the last 3 months. I didn't read it because I was told not too. What should I do now?

(Binding spell deleted)

Anonymous

As far as the spell is concerned I wouldn't be worried in the least. Assume for a moment it is real and has power. So what? All it is supposed to do is keep the recipient from gossiping, lying and sending negative energy. So it won't have any serious negative effect on you. It does not call for any sort of harm. It is a protection from harm spell. If you are doing any of those things, the worst thing that will happen is you may find yourself frustrated. Metaphysically there is nothing to do, aside from the standard protection exercises everyone should be doing on a daily basis. A little "Love Bombing" couldn't hurt either.

Assuming it is not for real, and you are doing none of the things specified in the spell, then the problem is psychological and not spiritual. This spell would suggest then that this individual is mentally unstable if not outright paranoid. It's possible this person could be dangerous, and you want to keep them away from you and out of your life. I have some experience with bullies as well as psychic matters, and if you know this individual, and possess an address, if they are in your area, then I would get a restraining order preventing them from having any contact with you (including any electronic contact). Do not engage them! That almost never works. It may feel good to tell someone off if they are acting crazy or miserable, but nobody responds well to that. They only see your defending yourself as an attack on them, which they use to justify continued abuse.

If this is a cyberbullying situation, don't respond. Work on ignoring them completely. I would unsubscribe from any unmoderated (or poorly moderated) discussion groups you may share. Do everything within your power to actively avoid them. No matter how tempting they may make it to respond, don't. Use an email filter to automatically delete anything they email you. Un-friend them on your Facebook or MySpace page(s). Block them every way you can to keep them from contacting you. Cyberbullies thrive on attention. They will move off in 99% of cases within a week if they realize they are not getting through. For the remaining 1% further action may be needed. Contact moderators, ISPs, social networking sites and ask them to assist you in blocking this person. If they continue to attempt to get in touch with you, contact your local police or a good lawyer and ask their assistance in obtaining a restraining order to prevent this individual from contacting you via email or through any electronic means.

If none of this works, email me again privately with the details and I will see if there is something else you might be able to do.

Brandi

How do I get a curse removed?

Over the years I have had some bad things happen to me and this year from March on has been terrible. I have had my Tarot read a few times and each time it has said basically the same thing. That there are people working against me. I believe I have been cursed. I don't know if you believe in this but if you do can you help me to lift or break this? If you do not can you direct me to the proper place or people? Sometimes I can feel like there is some kind of force stopping or barring me from getting thing that are to be mine, I do not necessarily mean material things but they are included also. I am so frustrated and discouraged by this. Thank you for listening and ANY help or insight you can give.

LR

I do believe curses are possible. As much as I love Tarot, one of the dangers is that at times it seems to reflect back more clearly what we believe to be true, rather than what is actually true. If you sincerely believe you are cursed, the cards may reflect that, whether it's true or not. The same is true of many psychics. If you set up a strong enough thought, the majority of psychics will not be able to distinguish that thought from reality.

Other than a string of bad luck and the readings, is there an indication you have been cursed? Did someone tell you they were cursing you? Does your family have a history of metaphysical trouble of this kind? If not, it's extremely unlikely that someone has deliberately cursed you. Such people tell their victims, because telling the victim gets their fear working towards the intended goal. That's how curses work - they trigger your fears which sets up waves of negativity, emanating from you, which bounce back to you. You end up powering your own destruction. In the end, it does not matter whether the original source of your troubles comes from inside or outside, the only way to turn things around is to change the way you look at life. The answer is to get your mental powerhouse working for you instead of against you, and that part is 100% within your own control.

Let's start on the assumption that you actually have been cursed, though, because my advice will be the same, regardless. I'll start with what not to do. Don't pay anyone anything to remove the curse. It's commonly used to relieve you of money and personal responsibility, but rarely provides any relief from your troubles.It's illegal in most cities. The "psychics" who do this are experts at manipulating your emotions, and they won't stop until they suck you dry.

Even if you are able to find a witch or psychic who will volunteer to wave her wand over you, it will be meaningless unless you are willing to do whatever you can to get and stay clear and positive. I believe you have every bit as much power as any psychic. More so, because it's your life. You can put emotional energy into your recovery that no one else can match.

The first thing you have to do is detach from negative people and ideas in your life, and start focusing on the positive. When you feel that you are being drawn to something negative, when you feel deprived of something that should be yours, when people don't treat you as you feel they should, refocus your energy away from the resentment and onto something positive. There may indeed be people working against you, but there must be some people you love, trust and count on. Focus your thoughts on those people instead. They actually deserve your attention. If you have a hard time detaching, try the uncording exercise. Sometimes it works right away, sometimes it takes a couple dozen attempts before you start to feel free of the cording. I used to feel the need to do this twice daily. I now know when I've been corded and uncord only when I feel an energy drain.

In addition, try "Love Bombing". You don't even need to know who is cursing you. Just focus your thoughts on the best feelings you can remember. Pull up feelings of love, compassion, and forgiveness. Pull them together into a big ball of golden light in your heart. When you are ready, imagine that you see anyone who wishes you ill, and shrink them backwards in age until you see them as a little child. Then hand them the ball of energy, which surrounds them, and dissolves them. Then let the image go, and focus your thoughts on something positive. If you find that hard to do, then find someone to help. Start writing a list of your blessings. Watch a funny movie. Every time your mind goes back to the idea that you have suffered or that you are cursed, bring positive thoughts to mind instead. Don't leave any room for someone else's negativity to take you over.

These books are based on ideas that I believe will be helpful to you even though neither of them mentions curses:

"Why People Don't Heal" by Caroline Myss
"Controlling Others for Love and Profit" by James Roswell Quinn ("If you believe that, then you better wake up. Controlling others is not the solution - It is the problem."). Don't be thrown off by the title ... it was originally going to be called "The Love-Based Leader". I helped edit the first edition.